Archive for December 2008


Differing experiences


Conall wrote…

I’m a guy, but I’ve always wondered what life would be like as a woman. I don’t just mean, how I would be treated, but that’d be part of it. How I would feel, how I would think, what it’s like to feel something inside you, instead of around you.

One of my fantasies, not necessarily kinky but just something I daydream about alot, is what I would be like as a woman, what my experiences would be, how they might differ from what my experiences in this body have been.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 18th, 2008 at 08:00 am

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argyle




PICT2241, originally uploaded by snartio.


Posted by on December 17th, 2008 at 10:00 am

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Be *with* her or *be* her…?


Someone wrote…

I usually think of myself as pretty comfortably male-identified. But sometimes I think about gender and it kind of catches me off guard. I more often than not identify more closely with female-fronted bands and artists, female characters in books. I write stories, or at least generate them in my head, and almost all my characters are variously queer females who make a point of playing with femininity. And when I see someone who a trans-man friend of mine would call “high femme” – curvy, skirted, long hair, small frame, etc.- it’s not clear in my head if I’d rather be with her or be her

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 17th, 2008 at 08:00 am

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comfortable inbetween




comfortable inbetween, originally uploaded by KungFoodie.


Posted by on December 16th, 2008 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Genderkid


You can call me… genderkid

I identify as… Transboy for now, but I’ll grow up to be a transman, assuming all the responsibility this word implies. The “trans” part is important – my history is deeply different from a man’s.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He, him, his (although gender-neutral pronouns are fine, too)

I’m attracted to… Masculinity. I get gayer by the day.

When people talk about me, I want them to… if they talk about my gender identity, I hope they treat it like they treat any other characteristic. That way, people can identify with me as a person and maybe expand their mind’s horizon.

I want people to understand… that my gender is not within the binary.

I’m willing to explain myself, so don’t be shy! Just be respectful.

 

About genderkid
I (genderkid.wordpress.com) am just a kid discovering my male-ish gender identity, but rediscovering my femininity at the same time. I read as much gender theory as I can and think up my *own* theories as much as I can. I want to study gender identity through anthropology or sociology.

I’m also part of Argentina’s first secondary-school LGBT movement. I’m currently trying to get my school to call trans students by our chosen names.


Posted by on December 16th, 2008 at 08:00 am

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QueerEyeCandy.com


If you like Genderfork, I’ll bet you a unisex bathroom key that you’re gonna love Queer Eye Candy, too.  Run by the inimitable Sinclair Sexsmith of Sugarbutch Chronicles, it’s another fantastic photoblog putting a personal face on queerness.  Sinclair writes:

This country is afraid of us, but they don’t know who we are.

We’re hot, we’re fierce, we’re vulnerable, we’re beautiful, we’re in love, we’re horribly ugly, we’re scared, we’re tender-hearted, we’re dog mommies and daddies, we’re parents, we’re children, we’re neices and nephews, we’re married, we’re bachelors, we’re rednecks, we’re blue-collar, we’re construction workers, we’re political pundits, we’re musicians, we’re drag performers, we’re community organizers, we’re angry, we’re activists, we’re just us.

Let’s show off who we are. Let’s show those who don’t know what we look like, let’s show off who we love and who we spend our time with, let’s show off our joyous communities and our heartaches and our hardships and our work and our play and our joy.

Let’s celebrate ourselves, just as we are.

Go show your support, submit your photos, and add it to your feedreaders. This site is doing something beautiful.

(Sent my way by Susan Mernit — thank you, gorgeous!)


Posted by on December 15th, 2008 at 10:00 am

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Uncomfortable with Discomfort


Someone wrote…

I live in discomfort daily.

Not because of my body or the fact that I dress in male clothing – I can’t change my body and male clothing is comfortable.

I live in discomfort because everybody else is uncomfortable with me and the way I am, and I can’t escape it.

I’m comfortable with myself, but I’m very uncomfortable with everyone else’s discomfort.

Wow, this sums up a lot.

What are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 15th, 2008 at 08:00 am

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The Gender Agenda


Wing wrote…

Once, a coworker asked me what my agenda for the night was and I nearly freaked out. I started ranting about how people always want me to decide what gender I want to be and how I couldn’t really do it by tonight before I caught the fact that she said “agenda”, not “gender”.

She then told me that I needed to be a boy that night because we didn’t have enough boys in the group. We were teaching a partner dance class.

So, now, every time I see the word “gender” I get really confused and instinctively look at my calendar half the time.

I’m giggling at this. You?

What are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 14th, 2008 at 01:57 pm

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leather jacket


Androgyny, originally uploaded by theadeleon.


Posted by on December 14th, 2008 at 10:00 am

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polkadot socks



Posted by on December 13th, 2008 at 10:00 am

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what other difference


Someone wrote…

I wish we could have a world like Soviet Leigh’s ideal. I wish we could forget, no it isn’t forget – I wish we could still see but not weigh gender, sex, race, sexuality, all so heavily. I wish for equality, but it also scares me. I wish it were otherwise but I feel that we – humans – have a need to find and see difference, to categorize and characterize. So a world of equal gender, sex and race, kind of scares me because I worry what other difference we would find and latch on to and divide against ourselves with. I wish and hope that maybe we’ll get better than that, but I don’t know.

What do you think we’d find?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 13th, 2008 at 08:00 am

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squiggle


David Paris, originally uploaded by therealdavidparis.


Posted by on December 12th, 2008 at 10:00 am

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anybody else like me?


Someone wrote…

I’m a woman. I am straight. I just don’t like wearing “women’s clothes”. I like baggy jeans and baggy hooded sweatshirts. I like T-shirts with geeky messages. I don’t like flowers or pink or skirts. I don’t wear makeup. Why would I wear makeup? It’s seems like such a weird thing to do. My hair is short, and I have a mohawk. I have piercings and tattoos.

It seems that most people have a box in their mind where they put “butch” women and that box is labeled “lesbian”. I even had a doctor ask me once “Are you sure you’re not a lesbian?”. Lady, I think I’d know if I fell in love with women and/or wanted to have sex with them. It seems like something that one would be aware of, wouldn’t you think?

I often wonder if there are anybody else out there like me. And if there are any men that are attracted to women like me.

Okay, I know you know she’s not alone on this. Tell her.

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 12th, 2008 at 08:00 am

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fishnet frame


Androgyny, originally uploaded by yakub_merchant.


Posted by on December 11th, 2008 at 10:00 am

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Pretty unbearded


Someone wrote…

I’ve been wearing a beard for a couple months. I enjoyed it, got compliments, was pretty proud of it. I got bored of it today and shaved. Then I exfoliated, moisturized. I quite comfortably identify as male, though I’m never quite sure what that means to others. Right now I feel pretty and I’m pretty much loving it.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 11th, 2008 at 08:00 am

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frolic


44/365. Leap of faith., originally uploaded by gracelizabeth.


Posted by on December 10th, 2008 at 10:00 am

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All’s fair in love and cross-dressing


The Little Star wrote…

I used to cross-dress as a guy when I was younger. I hated skirts and everything feminine. I wanted to be tough and taken seriously and looked up to.

Now I’m very much maintaining a balance between my feminine side and my masculine characteristics. I like to dress like a tough but sexy girl.

I met a wonderful person who is a cross-dresser. He changed my perspective on gender issues. Growing to love his cross-dressing is something not easy, but I do appreciate his feminine characteristics compared to my masculine side. Now I like to encourage him to dress up in my clothes and have fun. it is fun, having a boyfriend and sometimes a girlfriend to shop and chat about clothes to.

Sometimes I wish people didn’t take things so seriously. I really don’t see anything wrong if a guy walks down the street dressed in a skirt. Sometimes I don’t understand what the big fuss is about.

Gender doesn’t matter to me or my significant other. We are just two people who found each other.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 10th, 2008 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Harper


You can call me… Harper.

I identify as… transgendered, genderqueer, boy, boi, gay, bisexual, pansexual, queer, tranny, trans, ex-lesbian, transboy.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer male ones, but I’m at a stage in my transition where most people still refer to me as “she” and “her”. I still get a thrill every time I’m referred to as “he”.

I’m attracted to… Androgyny. There’s something about people who don’t quite fit into a gender category that is incredibly sexy. In a relationship, personality is the most important thing, and I really don’t consider gender a factor in romance. My current (and long-term) partner is also a transboy.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see me for who I really am and acknowledge that I am in an awkward stage of my transition and that as such my appearance doesn’t always match my gender identity. I want them to feel comfortable asking me about it instead of letting it hover menacingly over our interactions.

I want people to understand… that I am still the same person I always have been, only no longer trapped within the confines of my body. I am learning to allow my real self to be seen by the world, and that my transition is about freeing myself, not about wanting to cause pain or discomfort for you.

 

About Harper
I’m nineteen, an undergraduate college student majoring in English, planning on going to grad school to get my Master’s degree in Archival and Restorative Library Science. I love books and reading unconditionally and to an extreme extent. I’m an amateur artist, photographer, and writer. I have a thirteen-year-old little sister whom I love more than anything in the world. In March my boyfriend and I will have been together for three years. I’m pre-Testosterone and pre-surgery, but I will hopefully be starting my T soon, and I’m saving up money for Male Chest Reconstruction surgery. As of right now, I don’t want any bottom surgery.

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Posted by on December 9th, 2008 at 03:29 pm

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fireworks


haircut spiky, originally uploaded by wip-hairport.


Posted by on December 9th, 2008 at 10:00 am

faces | 4 comments »

clothesline



Posted by on December 8th, 2008 at 10:00 am

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