Acceptance over Honesty
Someone wrote…
I wish I could change my physical appearance at will. I don’t change it often, but I’ve always fantasised about being a shapeshifter. No one would decide I was one thing based on my appearance. They’d all have to get to know me, to let me explain. I wish people wouldn’t assume that I identify as a straight woman just because they see me as one. Almost everyone does, which will make it hard if I ever explain that’s not how I feel.
If I ever explain. I may just keep hiding behind characters. I may never get to explore it. I don’t think most people I know could understand.
My sister once said she’d disown me if I ‘became’ a lesbian, and that really hurt me, even though she took it back later. I love her and love her acceptance of me more than I love the idea of getting to push the boundaries of my identity.
I hope when she gets older and goes out in the world, out of her little heteronormist bubble, her attitudes change.
Then I can be freer.
How would you respond?
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November 14th, 2008 at 2:03 pm |
No advice, but I do understand. It makes me sad too.
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November 19th, 2008 at 3:59 pm |
It would be an amazing thing if we could change our appearance as easily as we change our minds. I’ve always wanted to be a shapeshifter myself but it’s just not in the cards (alas).
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April 12th, 2010 at 5:50 pm |
Hello Original Poster,
I’m sorry, do you mind-read? I could’ve sworn I wrote this. I’ve always dreamt about being a shapeshifter, and it’d be completely perfect for my “gender”. Or lack thereof.
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