Profile: Harper

You can call me… Harper.

I identify as… transgendered, genderqueer, boy, boi, gay, bisexual, pansexual, queer, tranny, trans, ex-lesbian, transboy.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer male ones, but I’m at a stage in my transition where most people still refer to me as “she” and “her”. I still get a thrill every time I’m referred to as “he”.

I’m attracted to… Androgyny. There’s something about people who don’t quite fit into a gender category that is incredibly sexy. In a relationship, personality is the most important thing, and I really don’t consider gender a factor in romance. My current (and long-term) partner is also a transboy.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see me for who I really am and acknowledge that I am in an awkward stage of my transition and that as such my appearance doesn’t always match my gender identity. I want them to feel comfortable asking me about it instead of letting it hover menacingly over our interactions.

I want people to understand… that I am still the same person I always have been, only no longer trapped within the confines of my body. I am learning to allow my real self to be seen by the world, and that my transition is about freeing myself, not about wanting to cause pain or discomfort for you.


About Harper
I’m nineteen, an undergraduate college student majoring in English, planning on going to grad school to get my Master’s degree in Archival and Restorative Library Science. I love books and reading unconditionally and to an extreme extent. I’m an amateur artist, photographer, and writer. I have a thirteen-year-old little sister whom I love more than anything in the world. In March my boyfriend and I will have been together for three years. I’m pre-Testosterone and pre-surgery, but I will hopefully be starting my T soon, and I’m saving up money for Male Chest Reconstruction surgery. As of right now, I don’t want any bottom surgery.

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Posted by on December 9th, 2008 at 03:29 pm

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One Response to “Profile: Harper”

  1. Neil

    Oh dear we are twins.
    I’m Neil, I’m 20, I’m trans, i’m at the state where i wish people would use male pronouns but most folks still use she, i’m pre-everything, i major in english, and i’m going into library science.



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