“undefined” breaks my heart

Someone wrote…

Biologically, I’m female… and I take my pronouns feminine.
I’m not particularly androgynous, but I do get awkward stares and whispers on occasion in public. Sometimes I’m even referred to as “sir” or with other masculine pronouns.

I’m not 100% comfortable with “girl,” but I accept it because “boy” would make me even more uncomfortable. I haven’t found a better alternative and “undefined” breaks my heart.

No one understands this confusion.
“You’re a GIRL.”
“You’re my GIRLfriend.”

I know. I know that.
But it doesn’t change the fact that I’m confused.

I just want you, I want someone, to understand and accept that I’m confused…
…and things may change some day.

Will you love me then?

this is pretty much my story — just out of someone else’s mouth. thank you, whoever wrote this.

What are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on December 1st, 2008 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to ““undefined” breaks my heart”

  1. Anonymous

    thanks for saying this. most of the time it’s myself that I’m telling this, myself that I’m trying to convince that it’s ok to be confused & not have answers. thank you


  2. On the fence...

    It's helpful to know that someone else like me is out there. I've thought about trying to become a man, but the truth is it scares me to death. And i don't feel like a woman, I usually don't enjoy the terms woman or lady, but boy or man scare me more. Thank you for saying this, and thank you Sarah for reading it to us.


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