It’s ironic that one of the biggest things I’ve learned during my transition is how little gender factors into who I am as a person. That I feel empowered not because I am a boy or girl or even a boy becoming a girl, but because somewhere along the way I discovered who I was underneath all of the expectations. Instead of the pronouns, seek an empowered sense of self.
When I came out as gay, a couple people were surprised. They said they never really thought of me as being straight or gay – to them I was “just Jes.” I wish gender were like that.
I think a significant part of why I’m attracted to boys is because I (secretly) identify as one to some extent, and the ones I’m attracted to have qualities that I would like to possess if I lived as male. In this way it feels queer to me even though to other people (and even to some of these boys themselves) it might be perceived as straight.
How do we define queer? Is queerness an inclusive concept or an exclusive concept? How does the concept of queer interface with reality.
This girl is going places, she is crazy hilarious. She is the queer daughter of a deaf mother and a Southern Baptist minister father. She went to an all-girls private college, and she’s pretty much… droolworthy.
She also has a Facebook group – you know, for ultimate stalking.
Half of the fights in this house would be solved if my mother would stop thinking my father does things the way he does because he is male. Maybe in the future people will have half as many fights as now.
Do you see older generations re-enacting socialisations you reject? How does it make you feel? How do you handle it?
In Tamil Nadu, higher education is opened up to individuals grouped into India’s thirdgender who had previously been barred from attending universities. (Please pardon the audio)
Does anyone know if eunuch has a positive or negative connotation in this context? What about third gender? Is transgender considered an outsider term by these communities?
I identify as… a butch-identified nelly genderqueer hipster trannyfag.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … he/him/ze/zir/hir/sir
I’m attracted to… My sexual identity is always evolving. I’m not a gay man, but I am a fag. I’m not a lesbian, but I’m a dyke. I don’t limit myself as far as my attractions go. I’m attracted to humans, and even sometimes people who don’t identify as human, but as something else. I’m attracted to personality.
When people talk about me, I want them to… Treat me as they would want to be treated. Ask thoughtful questions, and don’t try to figure out what’s in my pants.
I want people to understand… I don’t fit into one box, and I don’t expect anyone else to either. I like intersectionalities, the venn diagrams of identity.
About Julian
Julian is a student, artist, musician, and eater of food. He blogs at Gender, Rants, and Sodomy (juliandarling.wordpress.com) and helps out at Genderfork in the “Your Voices” section.
I am twelve, clearly female though my hair is short. We’re at the local public pool, taking a break to play on the playground during ‘adult swim’. A little girl, no older than five years old, walks up to me and demands to know why I’m “wearing a girl’s bathing suit.” I blush and don’t answer her.
When I tell this story, most people go tend to react by apologizing for the little girl’s ‘mistake’, and I shrug it off because, in part, it happened all the time to me anyway, but also because, at the same time, I’m asking myself that: Why WAS I wearing a girl’s bathing suit?
Marquise imparts wisdom to the world about “sex or relationships or sex or fashion or sex or drugs or sex” in this and subsequentvideos. What would you ask Marquise?
I have two moms, I’m sixteen years old and bisexual— even a little genderqueer, to say the least. I constantly feel as if everyone is judging me saying, “she’s just confused because she has two moms.” I wish my sexual preferences and gender confusion were recognized on their own and not as a “family issue.”
This trailer shows how gender policing and anti-LGBTQ attitudes affect all types of people, including straight persons who feel pressured to avoid certain types of clothing. Several teens mention having fun while bending gender roles, too!
“Describe an outfit you’ve worn that expressed the complexity of your gender.”
Someone wrote…
My first skirt arrived in the mail today. I’m wearing it now, with panties and a sleeveless, scoop-neck top. What strikes me immediately is how naked I feel while appearing fully dressed. It’s like I’m getting away with something. I never had that feeling in men’s clothes.
What pieces of clothing make you feel “naked” even though you’re fully clothed?