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Hey Everyone,

I’ve been getting nudges from different angles to talk more about where to buy good genderqueer clothing… but i’m not really sure where to send people.  Can you recommend a few useful online stores?

Use the “Recommend” form and we’ll make a proper blog post out of it.

Thanks!

~Sarah

“Describe an outfit you’ve worn that expressed the complexity of your gender.”

Someone wrote…

I rarely spend more than five minutes throwing myself together in the morning so I put on whatever is on top in the drawer. What results is unpredictable couplings of men’s and women’s pants and shirts. Sometimes people comment on the seeming confusion and usually I look down and pretend I don’t know what they’re talking about. Oh and I usually wear pretty girly panties with boxers over them. It makes me feel sexy in two different ways!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

tosh, originally uploaded by serhio.

Kate recommends…

Butch is a Noun was the catalyst in opening my eyes to non-binary genders. It is a beautifully, sensitively written collection of essays about all things butch, from coming out to cocks to public bathrooms to clothes shopping to internet flirting. Acclaimed by critics as well as genderqueer/trans heroes such as Kate Bornstein, this is a mindblowing book that I believe should be required reading for anyone interested in non-binary gender. (I wrote a review of it in haiku format here.)

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Bill Kaulitz – LaFeteDeLaMusique 06.21.07, originally uploaded by billkaulitz.

Vocalist of and founder of the band Tokio Hotel.

You can call me… Remy or Remigio or Little Hippo

I identify as… a “gaysian”, an enigma, a frou-frou individual & lover of humans.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … mostly I get the masculine ones. I used to get offended when people would mistake me for a girl, but now I embrace it!

I’m attracted to… fashionistas, people who wear plastic-framed glasses, those who exude creativity, warmth & humor, passionate & ambitious people, silly someones and musicians. Oh, and my partner Jeff. He’s a sexy man!

When people talk about me, I want them to… respect the struggles a little brown gay boy had to endure to remain true to himself. I am proudly different, but believe that we all share common struggles as people.

I want people to understand… the answers we seek are exemplified by the quality of questions we ask. I want people to understand the importance of tolerance and inclusiveness. We are all worthy, we are all connected.

About Remy
Remigio is a freelance writer and contributor to Examiner.com on the topic of gay culture (visit http://tinyurl.com/rhddgce to check him out). He lives in Denver, CO with his partner, Jeff and their sweet doggie Kahlo.

» Define yourself. «

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Rik, originally uploaded by TGKW.

Hey Everyone,

We’re having a minor glitch with some content not appearing. Should have it resolved within a day or two.  Sorry for the strangeness.  Thanks for the patience. :)

xo,
Sarah

Update: FIXED! Sorry about that! Carry on!

A proud lesbian-identified femme making sure that GLBT folks recognize that such a grrl exists.

More femme fun: A femme podcast series. A femme identity revue.

Carolyn&Hannah, originally uploaded by They Call Me Nico.

Someone wrote…

I used to really like the idea of looking androgynous, but since cutting my hair in a more boyish style I’ve been dressing much more feminine. It’s a bit strange.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

You can call me… Devin, Dev.

I identify as… A female-bodied, genderfluid/genderqueer person. I am male one day and then possibly female the next, and then the next genderless.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Depending upon whether I’m online or not: he, his, him, ze, sie, hir, (I I like ze, sie, and hir the best!), and offline I’m usually she/her, since I feel no need to physically transition, so I don’t pass at all. (Going in drag and experimenting to see if I do is fun, though!)

I’m attracted to… Men with feminine faces or butch-ish women with an air of masculinity to them. Sometimes I find myself checking out the femmes too.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Understand.

I want people to understand… That gender is simply NOT binary. It’s not anatomy. It’s a feeling, an identity. A self.

About Devin
Ask and I’ll tell.

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Backstage. B?dzie balet :-), originally uploaded by lunka.

XylophoneGender recommends…

Gender-free bathrooms are listed & searchable on a Google map. It’s all info provided by users, so it grows as much as the community helps it grow. It’s a great resource and a way you can help out today.

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UK group Transfabulous gives a sneak peek at a night at the Transfabulous Arts Festival. The full movie is still being screened as of this post.

Assist Me / Fashion Shoot / Blank Mag., originally uploaded by Simon Pais-Thomas.

“Describe an outfit you’ve worn that expressed the complexity of your gender.”

Someone wrote…

My favourite outfits:

• Women’s burgundy corduroy trousers, boxer briefs, men’s dress shoes, unisex black button down blouse, push-up bra, and braces (suspenders).
• Men’s jeans, thong, chest binder, skin-tight t-shirt, waistcoat, converse chuck taylors.

These are the outfits that make me feel whole!

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

You can call me… Joker

I identify as… an artsy bigender gynephiliac

As far as third-person pronouns go, … It doesn’t matter to me as long as the pronouns are directed with respect, but I appreciate it when people recognize my masculinity. It’s a big compliment.

I’m attracted to… women (feminine, soft butch, funny and/or confident), androgynous women and men, and transmen

When people talk about me, I want them to… to focus on my capabilities. I realize that my gender and my personality are intertwined in many respects, but rather than view my gender variations as crippling and confusing, I want people to see how it makes me better. My femininity tends to facilitate my compassion and tender expressions while my masculinity tends to accelerate my efforts to help people, my hard work ethic, and my respect for others.

I want people to understand… that everyone is 100% human, and that very few people are 100% male or 100% female. All that matters, though, is being 100% good.

» Define yourself. «