tnkgrl recommends…

10 years after Taste this/Boys Like Her, Lyndell Montgomery, Ivan Coyote, and Anna Camilleri are back (minus Zoe Eakle) with SweLL/So The Story Goes.

For more information:
– http://www.lyndellmontgomery.com/
– http://www.ivanecoyote.com/
– http://www.annacamilleri.com/

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You can call me… Danny/Dani

I identify as… Bigendered therian autistic nerdcreature.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer male/female ones, though I do not care which.

I’m attracted to… Intelligent people with a feminine streak.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Be honest and polite.

I want people to understand… that for me, being bigendered means that sometimes I fall on the male side and sometimes on the female. That, though I am male-born and male-bodied, I don’t want any surgery. Instead I choose to express my genders in other ways.

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michele5, originally uploaded by rightocaito.

Since gender does not exist in isolation, what other aspects of you influence your experiences and your gender(s) in public spaces?

rather be, originally uploaded by alexnnero.

Aiden wrote…

Saturday night I danced with my dad during the dad/daughter dance at my brother’s wedding. We were wearing matching tuxes; he asked who should lead.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Linda – Peter pan, originally uploaded by Jon_Senior.

You can call me… Johnny

I identify as… Male. I have always identified that way, I just thought everyone else was crazy, or that I would be locked in an insane asylum when I was older, but neither has happened yet. Some people attempt to force the labels of transgender/sexual onto me, however, I believe that my body’s change(s) are only physical and scientific and are part of a disorder/condition, NOT my brain “changing.” I will also always be Native. No matter how I identify I cannot change the fact that I am descended from Indigenous people.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Male/masculine ones only. I call you how you wish, then I expect the same respect back.

I’m attracted to… Men. And some women. I like men but not particularly feminine ones. I don’t know how to express my giddiness when I have a crush on one of them (especially if I read them as being possibly straight and stereotypically masculine). I’m still learning.
Shorter is better. Being a smaller guy it is hard when you must crane your neck to admire the person whom you desire. This is especially obnoxious with men.
I like people who will acknowledge that I have some form of sexual desire. My current girlfriend seems to ignore this and only wants to see certain parts of me and this hurts.
Stimulating conversation about mundane and/or amazing things is always good. I can never do without that at one time or another.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Not treat me as some sort of token. I want to them to see that there are many aspects of me, and even if I don’t share all of them, that they are just as important and still there. People who won’t look down on me because of my heritage, who won’t look down on me because of my mental health. And especially people who won’t take my weaknesses and turn them into gossip.

I want people to understand… That I am not some sort of screwball for saying that I think that Gender Identity Disorder is a perfectly acceptable diagnosis. I think that physically it defines me. Male in female body. I have always been male, therefore I keep the company of men, not trans people. I am not a trans person in mind, only in body. I want people to respect my level of “stealth.” I am not doing it intentionally; I just am not a trans person. I also want people to know that I can live with a diverse variety of people, even though I come off as hardass. Maybe if they stop looking for the Mad Indian and start looking for the afraid being who doesn’t know where to go for help, they will start thinking/seeing more humanely.

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NEW ROMANTICS, originally uploaded by Dirthman.

I just received this request for help. Can you offer support or advice?

I am an androgynous female; I identify as female or androgynous most of the time. And I have a problem at school I’m seeking to rectify.

For graduation, we have robes. Girls wear white and boys wear green. When asked if that was mandatory, we were told it was. Any switching? No. I know there is at least one other person upset about this. It’s not purely a gender issue, but also an issue of separating the genders — mandatory separation of genders — which upsets the feminists in some of us females. Combine that with the fact that the white robes come with a ton of regulations (you can only wear white under them) and the fact that girls have a much stricter dress code (we must wear stockings), quite a few people are up in arms.

My request is for help from people with more experience with these things than I have. I need help getting support, building a convincing argument, just getting help making sure both genders are allowed to wear what they want to wear, to express their gender the way they wish to, and not feel closeted by this. I know if I have to walk across the stage on my graduation day in a white robe, it will break my heart. It seems trivial, but it’s a trivial issue in the first place that the school is reacting in an unreasonable, disrespectful, and unyielding way. I’m asking you, and the community to please help giving any advice at all you can.

Thank you,
Ellie

You can respond in a comment below or email Ellie directly:
ellieforpeace at gmail.com.

Thanks for your support,
Sarah

You can call me… Jes

I identify as… Sacred Androgyne? Divine Hermaphrodite? Asexual Angel? Polysexual Demon? Shemale? Ladyboy? All round gender-shifting fox faery trickster entity?

As far as third-person pronouns go, … She or he will do.

I’m attracted to… Androgynous females, warm fluffy ultra pretty boys (so rare) and the occasional hairy alpha-cavemen. Mostly andro females though – on the femme side of andro preferred. Crazy is the flame and I am the moth. Shiny individuality is always a winner. One failed attempt at mating within my own species. Monsters and fascinating pariahs considered. No current vacancies.

When people talk about me, I want them to… I don’t care as long as they are talking.

I want people to understand… Why should people have to understand anything? Take me as they find me. Face value and all that. If I can’t make them like it, then it’s not my problem, is it?

About Jes
I still can’t get over the wonderful paradox of having male chromosomes, yet being legally female with a eunuchified feminine body but still that one crucial male bit. I almost convinced myself of the whole trannie trip for a while, just to get started on the hormones – easier to convince the shrinks that way. Nowadays I neither know, nor care what gender I am. And it’s a lot more fun that way too. Why define myself? No one else has much luck defining me – the labels just slide right off.

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Role Reversal, originally uploaded by galliano003.

Someone wrote…

“Oh don’t mind me, I’m just revising my gender.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

You can call me… Malic

I identify as… a queer trannyboygirldyke genderfreak. Or just genderqueer.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m currently in an “exploratory phase” with pronouns. At this point I take whatever people throw at me.

I’m attracted to… storytellers.

When people talk about me, I want them to… embellish tales of my genderfucking adventures.

I want people to understand… that there’s a lot that I don’t understand about myself yet, and that’s fine by me.

About Malic
i’m a theatre kid slash poet slash zinester slash bookslut slash spontaneous dance party enthusiast.

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Mask, originally uploaded by Fanaticus.

AgentRusco recommends…

I’ve only just become aware of Gender Voice, but it is a social network not unlike Facebook or MySpace. However, it’s aimed specifically toward trans people (et al) and their supporters.

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You can call me… Beth.

I identify as… Queer. Sometimes I’d go as far to tell you I’m an asexual genderqueer bio-female, but other days I’d just be who I am and let you make what you want of it.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Female ones are fine.

I’m attracted to… Androgynous males, feminine boys that don’t act camp, girls who look like boys who look like girls. Intelligence attracts me, as does a good sense of humour and an open mind. I like girls with short hair and boys with long hair, but above all I’m attracted to what’s on the inside over what’s on the outside.

I’m not sexually attracted to anyone, and I’m happy with that. People find that hard to accept, especially when I tell them I do love making out and swoon over physical beauty. I don’t really expect you to understand, because I’m not totally sure about things myself.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Realise that I like hanging out with boys because ironically, I feel much less pressured to look a certain way around them.

Not talk about what I ‘should’ do, but wonder what I ‘want’ to do.

I want people to understand… That blurring the lines is fine, and the grey area is an interesting place to be.

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Mórbido/Delicioso, originally uploaded by ?e?G?g?.

Someone wrote…

The more my mother tells me that I am a stunning girl, the more I feel like she is trying to make me care about whether I present myself as a particular gender. I look good in whatever I wear (or don’t wear).

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

You can call me… Jessica Who or Jessica De Leon

I identify as… a mtf transgendered person aka a crossdresser, I am happy with exactly who I am and have no plans to transition

As far as third-person pronouns go, … He or She is fine, I really don’t care either way

I’m attracted to… my wife!

When people talk about me, I want them to… be interested in making friends, it can be a cruel lonely world out there for those of us who identify and present differently, there is no need for more shadiness

I want people to understand… That it’s okay to feel both feminine and masculine! Just because you are a crossdresser doesn’t mean you have to flip a switch on and off to display your femininity

About Jessica Who
I have been transgendered most of my life and back in 2001 decided to start blogging about it, back when it wasn’t even called that. I took the original site down, but started up blogging again this year, check it out at jessica-who.com.

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