I’ve come to realise that I’m way more paranoid about people talking about my appearance than the actual occurrence of people talking about my appearance. My Psych lecturer did say once that people are so self-conscious and scared that others on the street are looking at them and judging them, but in reality, nobody cares at all.
I’ve found that once we get past those initial awkward moments of “uhm, I’m a Miss, not a Sir,” people recover really quickly and we can only move forward from there.
Found this today, talking to a friend, definitely thought it deserved some recognition. It’s pretty androgynous and gorgeous. I wish more people looked and dressed like this each day. I wish gender wasn’t so much put into two boxes – male and female.
I identify as… a transguy, a student, a thinker, unconventional, shockingly complex, young, a feminist, a lover, an adventurer, a fighter, young, and always a southerner at heart.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … he, his, him. This is a big step for me.
I’m attracted to… occasionally femme women, occasionally not so femme women, but women nonetheless.
When people talk about me, I want them to… not be afraid to talk about how I used to be a girl in the same way people talk about other things when they talk about me. Yeah I’m a guy now, but I am, always have been, always will be much more than just how I define myself. I’m not going to hide from my past.
I want people to understand… that I’m not perfect, but I try like hell to always be reliable and understanding. I ask for the same in return.
About MD
I’m sort of a vagrant right now, in between going to school and being a grown up. I’m really enjoying it. I don’t really have a permanent address. I’m moving around the northeast/east coast with my mutt and I have a new blog. I’ve written and maintained several anonymously, this one is a little more about me than other stuff.
First, let me quote: “Queeries is a social networking alternative for queers, gender-rebels, and the people who love them!”
I really like this social networking website not only because it’s extremely trans* friendly [you have a good range of options to pick when it comes to what gender identity you have, pronouns you prefer, and so on] but because the people on the website are diverse, supportive, and basically awesome. The website just recently started so it’s rather on the small side, but that’s okay as it feels much more personal that way. Definitely check it out!
I identify as… as completely gender-neutral as a person can be.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … whatever is fine I suppose when talking about me, but I prefer “ze” and “hir” in print.
I’m attracted to… females of any gender identification, and sometimes some guys whose personalities are so amazing and gentle and sweet that it’s impossible to not love them. But I can’t imagine ever doing anything with them. And dreadlocks and afros.
When people talk about me, I want them to… talk nicely. Realize that my non-gender is the least threatening facet of my personality. And that I do in fact have a personality beyond my looks.
I want people to understand… that just because I’m gender-neutral, doesn’t mean I’m against gender. It doesn’t mean you have to call me one thing or another. It doesn’t mean that I’m a one-issue horse. It’s just a part of me I can’t deny.
About Billie
Billie is talking about hirself in the third person now. Ze is a vegan and cares about animals and animal rights. Ze is a complete anarchist. Ze fell in love with a girl too early in hir life, and is now just living life day to day. Ze is learning how to cook, and is doing a kick-ass job at it. Oh and ze is going to school to study international agriculture. Ain’t ze diverse?!
My mother’s told me many times how happy she was I was her second child, because, as she said “I didn’t want more than two, but I would’ve kept having them until I got my daughter.” How can I ever tell her I’m growing, day by day, farther from the daughter she wanted and possibly even closer to being her second son instead? Those words break my heart every time she says them.
Neutrois, coined in 1995 by H.A. Burnham, is often seen as a counterpart or negative to androgyne. Associated labels like FtN, ItN, and MtN tend to be categorized as inclinations or transitions away from one gender but not towards another. Thanks to Chase for bringing it up. (Symbolsareunderdebate)
As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t really care. I’m completely ambivalent about all pronouns.
I’m attracted to… kindness, the ability to have good conversation, intelligence, integrity and honesty.
When people talk about me, I want them to… be nice. I do have feelings after all.
I want people to understand… That I am only human and that means that I am prone to mistakes and love and and treachery and love just the same as any other human. I want people to understand that there are no special rules when you’re dealing with humanity.
About Arren
I’m an older sibling, someone’s child, a friend and a lover. I was born and raised in the south-eastern United States, just a good old Southern boi.
This is the transgender answer to “Annie on My Mind,” only better. It is remarkably truthful and well researched to boot. The story is a first person narrative from a high school trans boy named Grady. The story picks up shortly after Grady came out to his parents and friends and follows Grady as he navigates school, family, and the holidays while continuing to define himself. Don’t discount it just because it’s YA fiction. It’s worth the read and even a decent, approachable, crash course on trans issues for uncertain grownups.
I was born a girl, and I’m okay with that. Sometimes I’m afraid, though, that my passion for gender equality and shucking those gender boxes comes more from the fear of female vulnerability, and how I’ve already been taken advantage of in ways against my will, than actual caring. I hope I’m a better person than that.
I identify as… I’m not sure. Genderqueer, something in between. When I was little I was such a tomboy and wished I was a boy. But I am physically feminine and I have always been raised as a girl and wanted to make everybody happy. Now I don’t feel like either and it’s confusing.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … “she” works for now, if only because “he” makes me uncomfortable. Growing up I always heard negative things about butch women. Now I am finally comfortable dressing more androgynously and my girlfriend said she’d be into it if I “butched it up.” Now I am feeling differently about pronouns.
I’m attracted to… Femininity, not completely limited to women, although I prefer them. I like when my girlfriend wears dresses and lacy, pretty things.
When people talk about me, I want them to… see all of my positive attributes. I am smart, funny, hardworking and loyal and I’d rather people not make a snap judgment about my worth. Also, try not to stare.
I want people to understand… that not all people fit into the binary.
About Kate
I am a 27-year-old woman who currently lives in California. I grew up in Pennsylvania and Florida and recently completed my MFA in painting. I live with my beautiful partner and our two badly behaved cats.
You can call me… Rebecca or Beck or something else. Just let me know that’s your name for me.
I identify as… myself. More on that in a few.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … she. I’m physically female, so it seems the most clear, which is what I go for. If there was a pronoun that could be used without even involving gender, I’d try that.
I’m attracted to… people! Screw the gender, the sexuality, the looks, I get attracted to my friends, to people I already know. I start seeing their beauty and they become more precious. Sex is great and all, but for me, it’s just icing on the fun of a relationship.
When people talk about me, I want them to… remember me as who I am, not what I am, and let it give them a little bit of a more open mind.
I want people to understand… that it doesn’t matter what tags you have, the core is you. That makes more of a difference than your sexuality, your gender, your ‘label.’ It makes things easier, but what’s the fun in that?
About Rebecca
I’m just a perverted geek with an obsession with words and the human body and trying to get a better grip on my own identity.
