A fraud?
Someone wrote…
Whenever I fill in one of those equal opportunity forms that asks your gender, I am never sure what to put and feel a fraud whatever I do fill in…. I am never happy ticking “transgender” as I don’t feel I am trans enough, and I’m very rarely able to pass as male— I usually end up ticking “female” because I think that’s how the world sees me. But I still feel like a fraud.
What’s your experience?
Posted by julian on October 24th, 2009 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 10 comments »
October 24th, 2009 at 12:21 pm |
Same. I usually up checking female but any option I choose feels like a fraud.
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October 28th, 2009 at 2:10 pm |
I understand how you feel. I never feel “trans enough” either… which then makes me feel ridiculous because… What is trans enough? What is queer enough?
Try to remember, filling one of those stupid little boxes will never determine who you truly are. If you do not have a box, that’s okay.
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November 1st, 2009 at 8:13 pm |
I rarely get the opportunity to check off “trans” on a form – it’s either male or female. Whichever I end up picking, I feel like a liar.
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November 1st, 2009 at 9:27 pm |
I always check male, and I did this waaay before I ever transitioned. I don’t know why, it was just programmed into my subconcious I guess, I really don’t know why I did this. It created some real confusion when I would join something or go to appointments, because they would be expecting someone more male looking.
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November 1st, 2009 at 10:45 pm |
At the clinic I go to, I was so happy when I saw the form. First of all, sex and gender were two separate questions. Second, “sex” included intersex, and “gender” included trans, FtM, MtF, and a few others as well, with the option to check more than one. That’s the only time I’ve been able to give an accurate answer.
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November 6th, 2009 at 11:56 am |
Oh, my friend. I feel exactly the same. Some days male, some days female. But everyday human. As you, I always check female. I would rather chess nothing.
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November 29th, 2009 at 2:25 am |
I know exactly what you mean! I only once in my life had the option of filling in ‘third sex’, it was on a normal tourist survey in the Philippines and it was such a relieve.. When I gave it back to the girls interviewing us, they looked at the form and didn’t even lift their eyebrowes. It was as normal as it should be.
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November 29th, 2009 at 7:52 am |
J – Thanks for the ray of hope. That’s awesome. I really appreciate that they included intersex.
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March 15th, 2010 at 2:01 am |
What to do with boxes?
How about this video?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E2hfSoUHjhM
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March 15th, 2010 at 2:04 am |
double post
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