A fraud?

Someone wrote…

Whenever I fill in one of those equal opportunity forms that asks your gender, I am never sure what to put and feel a fraud whatever I do fill in…. I am never happy ticking “transgender” as I don’t feel I am trans enough, and I’m very rarely able to pass as male— I usually end up ticking “female” because I think that’s how the world sees me. But I still feel like a fraud.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on October 24th, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 10 comments »

10 Responses to “A fraud?”

  1. Dru

    Same. I usually up checking female but any option I choose feels like a fraud.


  2. Ash

    I understand how you feel. I never feel “trans enough” either… which then makes me feel ridiculous because… What is trans enough? What is queer enough?

    Try to remember, filling one of those stupid little boxes will never determine who you truly are. If you do not have a box, that’s okay.


  3. Darian

    I rarely get the opportunity to check off “trans” on a form – it’s either male or female. Whichever I end up picking, I feel like a liar.


  4. Johnny

    I always check male, and I did this waaay before I ever transitioned. I don’t know why, it was just programmed into my subconcious I guess, I really don’t know why I did this. It created some real confusion when I would join something or go to appointments, because they would be expecting someone more male looking.


  5. J

    At the clinic I go to, I was so happy when I saw the form. First of all, sex and gender were two separate questions. Second, “sex” included intersex, and “gender” included trans, FtM, MtF, and a few others as well, with the option to check more than one. That’s the only time I’ve been able to give an accurate answer.


  6. Sim0n

    Oh, my friend. I feel exactly the same. Some days male, some days female. But everyday human. As you, I always check female. I would rather chess nothing.


  7. BloedEnMelk

    I know exactly what you mean! I only once in my life had the option of filling in ‘third sex’, it was on a normal tourist survey in the Philippines and it was such a relieve.. When I gave it back to the girls interviewing us, they looked at the form and didn’t even lift their eyebrowes. It was as normal as it should be.


  8. B-Rae

    J – Thanks for the ray of hope. That’s awesome. I really appreciate that they included intersex.


  9. Anonymous

    What to do with boxes?
    How about this video?


  10. another ace

    double post


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