“Family issue.”

Someone wrote…

I have two moms, I’m sixteen years old and bisexual— even a little genderqueer, to say the least. I constantly feel as if everyone is judging me saying, “she’s just confused because she has two moms.” I wish my sexual preferences and gender confusion were recognized on their own and not as a “family issue.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on May 19th, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to ““Family issue.””

  1. --Z--

    Problem is, even if you didn't have "two moms", people would just find other ways to blame your upbringing or other factors. The people who make these kind of comments are unable to accept the choices you're making for yourself, and so your family situation isn't really the issue here, they'll find ways to run you down regardless.

    It's hard, especially when people involve the people you love. But it's part of being outside of societal norms, and at least you know you can rely on your family for support and love.


  2. Ginger

    I agree with Z. There will always be some reason someone can find to "blame" your being outside understood "norms." It's you staying strong with your beliefs about yourself that leaves no room for others to seek blame. Love and support yourself as much as you seek. **HUGS**


  3. Alex

    I know I’m about 4 years late to this party, and your 20 now, but I am 17, and in exactly the same place as you were when you wrote this. I am queer (more or less bisexual, but I don’t really like that label), and… a little bit genderqueer, to say the least. I also have two moms, and I also feel like people judged my gender confusion based on the fact that I have two moms. I’m afraid that people see it as a family issue, and think I’ve been confused about gender roles because of my parents. You’ll probably never read this, because you posted this so long ago, but if you have any tips, or wisdom, I would love to hear it.


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