Fe fi fo fum.

Marion wrote…

I sort of came out to my mum the other day. I explained by saying that rather than being female (my biological sex) or male, my gender is foppish dandy. We decided that the correct pronouns for someone who identifies as a foppish dandy are “fe fi fo fum.” It’s not quite accurate, and I’m not sure she understands how much this means to me, but it’s good enough for now.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on December 13th, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 9 comments »

9 Responses to “Fe fi fo fum.”

  1. James

    I’m so glad it went well!
    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with taking it in small steps. I mean, it’s a huge thing to come out, but it’s also a lot of work for that other person to start seeing one in an other light.


  2. jay

    i think i should have done it that way with my mom..but no matter what i say she wont ever truly understand it. maybe one day..i hope


  3. Sarah

    That is so wonderful!


  4. Avery

    LOVE. It.

    Somehow fe fi fo and fum don’t sound as awkward as ze and hir. I vote for putting these into use.


  5. Joey

    I second fe fi fo fum!


  6. Tabitha

    I’m in love with the idea of “Foppish Dandy” as a gender! That’s so wonderful I don’t have words for it!


  7. Logan

    I totally agree with Avery. This was the most awesome thing I’ve read all day (and actually, I’ve read some pretty awesome things today).


  8. VAL

    Wow. I third the motion for fe fi fo fum.

    No, I’m not joking. I think I may use those.


  9. Simon

    Yeah, I’m really digging those pronouns.

    “Simon is awesome. I talked to fi yesterday. Fe was reading a really interesting-looking short story collection and I asked if I could borrow fo book once fe was done with it, but fe said that it wasn’t fum, it was fo friend’s.”

    Okay this is actually kinda difficult but I think after the learning curve it’d be way rad. I dunno, for some reason I just can’t get on the xe/ze/(th)ey/e/whatever bandwagon.


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