Forces beyond my control.

Someone wrote…

I’m male bodied but I hate that the criteria for that and qualities associated with that are defined by forces beyond my control.

Are those qualities really controlled by outside forces, or can we create our own criteria?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on February 23rd, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Forces beyond my control.”

  1. sarah e

    We can create our own criteria, but I think we create our own definitions when we do that. If we want to fit into society’s definition of maleness, say, that’s where you run into trouble with imposed criteria.


  2. Lindsey

    I’m female bodied and I have a similar feeling. I don’t want people putting me in boxes of how they think I’ll react to certain things just because that’s what’s prescribed for my gender. I find the stereotypes ridiculous and it annoys me that people prefer these safe definitions to actually taking a moment to think about things. If they thought “hey, what would Lindsey think of this?” rather than “She’s a girl, she’s bound to think this,” it would make such a difference.

    I try to challenge them, but it does get tiring.


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