Gentleman and a scholar.

Someone wrote…

Once, I held the door open for a man carrying a heavy box, and he smiled at me and said “You are a gentleman and a scholar.” The unexpectedness of this comment made me smile all day, but everyone I told about it wondered why I wasn’t offended that he used a term that implied I was male. I couldn’t tell them that his use of the word “gentleman” was exactly why I found it so delightful.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on December 16th, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 7 comments »

7 Responses to “Gentleman and a scholar.”

  1. Lanthir

    Awesome! Sad tea about nobody else understanding though.
    I tend to use gentleman and lady as agendered terms, relating more to behaviour at any particular time than to gender or sex.


  2. Ebenezer

    One of the best compliments ever.

    @Lanthir: I wholeheartedly approve.


  3. mora

    That’s great, really it is. :)


  4. milena

    i adore that phrase. maybe some day some one will say it to me.


  5. Lilybean

    Yeah, I sometimes say that although I’m now a lady, that won’t stop me acting like a gentleman.


  6. Taylor Trash

    My dad used this phrase all the time when I was growing up.


  7. Ian Ridley

    That is my very most favorite thing to be called. I had a Master awhile ago who called me that alot. She ended up being emotionally abusive, and I got the hell out of there, but there are little things I still miss, like that.


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