Hello, boy.

Someone wrote…

I went to a restaurant with my grandparents a few weeks back, and my nana was incredibly annoyed at the waiter calling me ‘sir’ as she sees me as female and nothing else. The waiter was a lovely guy who had picked up on the fact that I was presenting as a boy (I was wearing a binder, a man’s shirt and jeans) and very respectfully had treated me as such. Last night I took my friend to the same restaurant again, and we had the same waiter. The first thing he did upon seeing me was say “Hello, boy” (bear in mind here that English isn’t his first language), before proceeding to treat my friend (who was born as, and still is, male) and I as perfect equals. It made my day.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on August 23rd, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 5 comments »

5 Responses to “Hello, boy.”

  1. Sammie

    That’s awesome! I wish that was the norm rather than an exception.


  2. Fantasia Lillith

    That deserves a tip!


  3. Kite

    That’s wonderful! <3


  4. Anonymous

    I agree with Fantasia Lillith, they deserve a tip! What a great experience! :)


  5. Rusty

    I feel bad about the fact that I used to get so upset when waiters mistook me for a boy. Now I wonder how many of them were trying to be kind, and I hope I didn’t ruin it for the customers who came after me.


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