Lucky.
Someone wrote…
This weekend my straight boyfriend is going to help measure me so I can buy a binder that fits properly. He said that while he’s normally only attracted to girls, he’s attracted to me more and if presenting as male on occasion is important to me he’s going to do everything he can to help me do that. I feel really lucky to have him.
What’s your experience?
Posted by julian on October 5th, 2009 at 10:00 am
Category: your voice 9 comments »
October 5th, 2009 at 10:56 am |
Kudos to your mate for being so understanding. I’m in a similar situation :) When I started wearing a binder and presenting male/androgynous, my mate actually said he found me hot with my boy face on, and it’s made him reflect on his own sexuality quite a bit. He calls me by my proper name as well, which makes me feel tremendously lucky.
Best wishes to both of you.
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October 5th, 2009 at 11:25 am |
It’s always nice to hear about supportive partners.
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October 5th, 2009 at 6:20 pm |
This actually made me tear up a little bit. This is amazing and so unlike how many people would react. He is awesome, and so are you.
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October 6th, 2009 at 1:17 pm |
That is quite amazing.
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October 11th, 2009 at 11:08 am |
I used to be in that situation as well. I was in a relationship with a boy who identified as straight male. Within the 3 years that we were going out I realized that I’m genderqueer. I started to change my look to a more androgynous apperance. He liked that a lot and 3 years later he came out as gay.
Today we are best friends and go to all the queer parties together. :-)
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October 25th, 2009 at 8:46 pm |
That is so beautiful. I wish more people were as understanding and supportive.
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October 26th, 2009 at 10:46 am |
There are many people like this. Straight or gay partners of trans people who began a journey with their partners and never felt forced to put their orientations above their actual feelings.
My partner met me as a girl.And has followed me through the craziness of the last year of me becoming the boy I am. And even appreciates that I want to be a cross-dresser when I grow up :)
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November 9th, 2009 at 5:38 pm |
That’s so great! :)
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February 20th, 2010 at 5:34 am |
That’s so great, you really ARE lucky! Even though my girlfriend is bi, she has had a kind of hard time accepting me as a guy, though she has always stayed on my side and has callen me by appropriate name. I’m so happy for you darling!
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