Someone wrote…

I want to exist in a state of neutrality, crossing to male or female whenever I desire. Wearing female clothes on a female body feels too much like locking me to one gender over the other.

Do you exist in a state of neutrality? If not, how do you reconcile gendered clothing with your internal vision of yourself?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on February 15th, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Neutrality.”

  1. IdentityTBD

    I have always gravitated toward neutrality in dress. I didn’t recognize it as a function of gender until the past year, but I wear almost exclusively clothing that is worn equally by both sexes. The progress of my career was limited because I couldn’t bring myself take a job where I had to dress in a business suit every day.


  2. Tom Adams

    Most clothing has some sort of gender attached to it. Even these pink trousers. They’re made in a masculine style but are in the currently-feminine colour pink. They’re not neutral, they’re both masculine and feminine at once.

    I like my clothing to be practical-masculine and pretty-feminine. I tend to feel weird if there isn’t a good mix. Too much feminine feels like fetishistic cross-dressing (which can be good in certain situations) and too much masculine feels boring.


  3. Sarah

    Tom, I’m born female and feel EXACTLY the same way. My clothing has to be an equal mix or it feels like drag or boring (or both).


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