Neutrality.
Someone wrote…
I want to exist in a state of neutrality, crossing to male or female whenever I desire. Wearing female clothes on a female body feels too much like locking me to one gender over the other.
Do you exist in a state of neutrality? If not, how do you reconcile gendered clothing with your internal vision of yourself?
Posted by julian on February 15th, 2009 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 3 comments »
February 15th, 2009 at 9:33 am |
I have always gravitated toward neutrality in dress. I didn’t recognize it as a function of gender until the past year, but I wear almost exclusively clothing that is worn equally by both sexes. The progress of my career was limited because I couldn’t bring myself take a job where I had to dress in a business suit every day.
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February 15th, 2009 at 12:45 pm |
Most clothing has some sort of gender attached to it. Even these pink trousers. They’re made in a masculine style but are in the currently-feminine colour pink. They’re not neutral, they’re both masculine and feminine at once.
I like my clothing to be practical-masculine and pretty-feminine. I tend to feel weird if there isn’t a good mix. Too much feminine feels like fetishistic cross-dressing (which can be good in certain situations) and too much masculine feels boring.
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February 15th, 2009 at 2:24 pm |
Tom, I’m born female and feel EXACTLY the same way. My clothing has to be an equal mix or it feels like drag or boring (or both).
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