Profile: Stefany
You can call me… Stefany, or Clark Gable.
I identify as… genderaloof. It’s like genderqueer, except that I (usually) try not to put too much intent behind my gender presentation. I put myself out there as-is and observe what kind of feedback I get. And then discard that feedback, because I don’t really care.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … the female ones are fine. Though whenever someone calls me “sir” (or “bud,” like talking to a 10-year-old boy), I just giggle a bit and don’t correct them.
I’m attracted to… smartypants girls who are sometimes boys. Tiny boys whose clothes I can fit. Queer punx on bikes. College professors.
When people talk about me, I want them to… have no idea what they’re talking about. That’s the aloofness I mentioned before. The second someone can sum me up in a nutshell, that’s the second I need to break out of that shell and find a new one.
I want people to understand… that they are the only ones who have control over who they are. Only *you* can define you. It sounds simple and obvious, but there are so many people who don’t practice it in real life. It took a long time for me to realize that, and it’s an ongoing battle. But I think (re)claiming control over yourself, over your identity, is the first step towards true satisfaction, or nirvana, or fulfillment — whatever you want to call it.
About Stefany
Why, hello there. I am a language geek, a guitar player, a frequent flier, a beer snob, astigmatic, a DIY enthusiast, and and always up for jabbing the status quo with a sharp, glittery stick.
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Category: profiles 11 comments »
December 23rd, 2009 at 4:19 pm |
(^__^) You’re cute!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 8:17 pm |
yes you are extremely cute!
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December 23rd, 2009 at 10:17 pm |
I think you are clearly in possession of my brain. This is kind of exactly how I feel and how I’m trying to explain things to my parents. Esp. genderaloof. I say labelfuck, but I guess they’re pretty much similar! YEEEE I love how Genderfork helps the whole we-are-not-alone thing. :D
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December 24th, 2009 at 11:03 am |
Hurray for being attracted to smartypants and professors! I always end up being attracted to intelligent people who are older than I am. If they’re up for a discussion on literature, it’s even better.
I love how naturally the photo of you is taken. Those sort of photos reveal much more about the person that poses do.
Oh, and I like your outfit. :)
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December 24th, 2009 at 11:36 am |
Genderaloof! I love it. It DOES sound much more natural, as though ‘genderfuck’ is some kind of “statement”.
I also love your nutshell comment, and think you are rather cute!
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December 24th, 2009 at 12:55 pm |
Two things: you’re awesome, and that is a SWEET tie. :)
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December 24th, 2009 at 2:04 pm |
word, overlabeling is no fun
once i have some sense of identity i try to just step back and live
i don’t know where you’re at but feel free to hit me up on tumblr, i could use some help with my grammar homework
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December 24th, 2009 at 11:41 pm |
you remind me of myself in a strange 4th dimension sort of way. And miko im following you on tumblr now hope you don’t mind :)
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December 25th, 2009 at 5:57 am |
Tie clip ftw.
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December 26th, 2009 at 1:38 am |
*blush*
You all rock, ya know.
xoxo
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December 29th, 2009 at 2:35 pm |
Stealing boys’ clothes that you can fit into rocks. My boyfriend doesn’t fully yet realize my obsession with this.
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