Somehow doing it wrong.

Someone wrote…

I don’t really know how to begin my genderqueer journey. I feel it internally, mentally, but I’m not sure how to go about making the “transition.” I feel like people will judge me negatively, but that’s not really what I’m worried about. I’m worried about somehow doing it wrong.

What advice would you give to someone beginning their “genderqueer” journey? Is there any wrong way to “transition”?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on April 18th, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 4 comments »

4 Responses to “Somehow doing it wrong.”

  1. Seth

    I think I get where you're coming from. My advice would be to try low-commitment things first. For instance, I tried full drag a few times and makeup for a while and they didn't suit me. It's like shopping for clothes (often literally.) Try on whatever looks right on the hanger, but don't feel bad if it doesn't fit or look the same on you. Obviously, some things can't be taken off or put on at will, but save those till you've gotten a better idea of where you're headed.


    sarahdopp replied:

    This is wonderful advice. Thank you for chiming in, Seth!


  2. juliandarling

    I guess, responding to my own question, I don't think there is any right or wrong way to transition. As long as you stick to what you want/need, you can do no wrong. But I definitely ditto Seth above^^ in that starting slow can make things seem less momentous/intimidating.


  3. Strangel

    It's not a question about right or wrong because there is no such thing.(hope this is not to brutal)
    when I look backwards to my way of expanding gender neutrality, I laugh a lot !
    Either dressing up as Chun Lee from street fighter (mini skirt,pigtails with spikes, bracelets up to my elbow) to go out and buy bread =), or waking up on a Monday morning and deciding to go to college dressed in red vinyl corset, just because I know everyone hates mondays and I made them laugh (with or at me) .

    everytime, I tried not to think if I'm doing it for Me or for narrow minded people to see other GLBT like they are a "little bit more normal" than me. ;)

    Like in Angels in America:
    "The body is the garden of the soul"
    Have FUN, and don't overthink it.


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