Too hard.

Someone wrote…

I’m glad I am trans and wasn’t born simply male, because it has given me an amazing journey to experience that has made me who I am today. But sometimes I wish it could be easier. Some days it’s almost too hard.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on June 6th, 2009 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “Too hard.”

  1. genderkid

    I feel this way, too. I'm also thankful for my past because it made me the person I am (which is a person I can live with, despite all my defects) and because I like some aspects of my "female" physique. But it certainly would be easier if I could now magically change certain things: the pronouns and names people use when talking to me, some parts of my body. Sometimes I wonder whether the pros of trans life outweigh the cons, but in the end it's the only life I have; so it is totally worth it.

    This reminds me of a comic by nic_ink:


  2. paunfar

    Yes, I do think that being trans has given me an interesting perspective, but frankly… When I am in school, dealing with people who don't 'get it', think that who I am is just a kink, or that I just am going through a phase…. It's then that I want all of the interest to go away, and just have been born right.


  3. Rory

    I look at it the same way as I look at my deafness. It is what it is. No point in wondering whether it'd be easier to not be deaf, or trans. We are who we are, and if we weren't trans [or deaf] we wouldn't be who we are…. and I think we are awesome the way we are… and I do feel that it teaches us a lesson in life that would take other people years to learn [if ever], and makes us stronger. I try to not dwell on how sometimes it feels too hard, or how I wish it could be easier, because then it just gets depressing.


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