Undermined.
Someone wrote…
I don’t identify as a man, but it makes me really uncomfortable when my masculinity is undermined.
What’s your experience?
Posted by julian on November 18th, 2009 at 08:00 am
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Posted by julian on November 18th, 2009 at 08:00 am
10 Responses to “Undermined.”
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November 18th, 2009 at 8:08 am |
Yes. This.
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November 18th, 2009 at 8:29 am |
I know exactly how you feel!
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:21 am |
Oh, exactly.
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November 18th, 2009 at 10:07 am |
I totally agree! I identify as an androgen, and people sort of see that as “not counting.”
Yesterday I was boxing with a friend (which I do everyday) and my best friend’s boyfriend walked by and proceeded to mock, quite seriously, “Aw, isn’t cute and you think you can toss a wittle punch? Lemme guess, your sparring partner’s just throwing the slow punches over your head?”
I wanted to destroy his face.
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November 18th, 2009 at 10:19 am |
ah! precisely! Thank you for stating so simply something I could not put into words.
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November 18th, 2009 at 10:55 am |
I know exactly what you mean! I feel exactly the same very often, but the other way around.
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November 20th, 2009 at 4:34 am |
This has been confusing the hell out of me for a long time. I’ve been learning to remember that it’s okay to be in the grey area.
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November 20th, 2009 at 8:29 am |
Same here and as a friend says ” People act from the wisedom of their ignorance”.
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November 21st, 2009 at 4:46 pm |
Oh my god, this.
i hate when my brother tries to be all chivalrous and tell me he won’t fight me cause i’m a “girl”.
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November 28th, 2009 at 10:17 pm |
YES. When I came out as a genderqueer to my ex-partner (who was a cross dresser), he said, “You just seem feminine to me.” Ugh.
Sure, I am feminine sometimes, but I hate it when people use it as a contrast, as if it negates my androgyny and masculinity. Cisgender men get this, too, so it’s probably related. It’s like you have to be “purely” masculine in order to be considered masculine at all.
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