A beautiful dress.
Someone wrote…
My body feels like a beautiful dress that belongs to someone else and doesn’t fit me. I want it because it’s pretty but I hate it because it’s not mine. I’m more confused than I’ve ever been.
What’s your experience?
Posted by julian on March 15th, 2010 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 13 comments »
March 15th, 2010 at 10:13 am |
*big hug*
The way I figure it, it’s great that you/we can appreciate our bodies, but that doesn’t change the fact that we want to get our birthday suits tailored!
It gets better ^^;
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March 15th, 2010 at 10:22 am |
@Mapie I sure hope it does.
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March 15th, 2010 at 11:40 am |
I couldn’t agree more! I love my body, I just hate how it feels.
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March 15th, 2010 at 2:23 pm |
that’s the most excellent way of putting it.
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March 15th, 2010 at 4:34 pm |
I’ve felt this way my whole life; Thank you so much for putting it into words.
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March 15th, 2010 at 7:10 pm |
Exactly how I feel. I recognize that my body is gorgeous, but it’s not the right shape. If it was someone else’s body, I would love and admire it. Because it’s my own, I hate and despise it.
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March 15th, 2010 at 9:24 pm |
I absolutely understand. You are not alone.
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March 15th, 2010 at 9:55 pm |
i thought exactly this before i even knew what it meant
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March 16th, 2010 at 2:17 am |
I can relate to most people here. I too am aware that, on anyone else, I would perceive my body as beautiful. But on my, it’s a piece of clothing badly tailored to the wearer.
It’s too big in some places and too narrow in others.
I love every part of it that’s not gendered, and if I got those wrongly fitted parts changed, it would be perfect.
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March 16th, 2010 at 9:56 am |
I agree. I can look in the mirror sometimes and think, ‘Wow! I look nice!’ I can even appreciate the parts of my body that I’m not happy with. But I don’t feel like it’s me.
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April 1st, 2010 at 11:46 am |
Wow. I don’t think that could have been phrased in a more beautiful, poetic or more accurate way. I totally get how you feel.
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May 21st, 2010 at 11:16 am |
My God I know EXACTLY what you mean. In fact, I might steal that analogy when I talk to my guy friends who insist I’m crazy for not liking my hour-glass shape.
Sometimes I wish I could jump out of this body and then give it to someone who would really love it. that way I could be me, but this beautiful body wouldn’t just go to waste either.
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July 6th, 2010 at 11:50 pm |
I get what you’re saying.
I don’t think that I’ll ever get the courage to metaphorically cut the dress up.
The dissociation is what gets to me worst.
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