Always in the wrong cup.

Someone wrote…

In mens’ clothes, I feel obviously curvy and like a woman.

In a bikini, I feel like my “masculine” personality betrays me.

I think my genderfluid is always in the wrong cup.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on August 1st, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 10 comments »

10 Responses to “Always in the wrong cup.”

  1. Anonymous

    I know what you mean.
    Sometimes, I just want to be poured onto the floor.


  2. Cat

    This is me, too. I wish I had the courage to have others slip on me once in a while and get challenged rather than it always having to be the other way around.


  3. Jessica

    I have a great poster with George Carlin looking skeptical/philosophical, with a wagging index finger inclined toward you: “And don’t ever forget, things could be worse…. your cup could be half empty.”

    Imagine living at any other time or place in the past – trapped in your biology with no options, no self-expression, nada, zip. It’s be preferable to be dead, which is the only good part, because you soon would be.

    Not to say that the current times and places could not stand for some significant improvement, but holy crap we’re lucky folk.


  4. Samson

    I’m with you. In a bikini, I’m a total dude. And I kinda like it!


  5. Stella

    I feel like this too but I don’t know what to do about it. I don’t wanna hide but I’m sick of being challenged. :(



    I feel like that sometimes.
    I think I feel uncomfortable with anything too gendered, and so I feel at odds if I dress feminine, or masculine, like I’m being pulled in the other direction.


  7. lexluther

    i feel the same way its like your body betrays your mind


  8. Dar

    totally with you. there’s no wrong way of being yourself, dress up as femme doesn’t mean i can’t act like a guy =]


  9. Jessica

    @Dar Ever see the film Young Doctors in Love? Hector Elizondo does a wonderful job of being a 110% man in drag. He’s playing a mob boss’s son who is in disguise to visit and watch out for his father, who is in the hospital. Very funny. My favorite scene with this character is when he’s talking quietly with one of the doctors and see’s someone on his car in the parking lot…. he bristles and stride toward him like a very very male gorilla shouting in a very veyr male voice: “Hey, you, asshole! Get of da fuckin’ car!”


  10. Brynn

    I may not be gender fluid, but I love the bit about your genderfluid being in the wrong cup. :)


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