Don’t want to grow up.

Leigh wrote…

I think my gender is Peter Pan. I’m just a boy, and I don’t want to grow up.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on June 26th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 13 comments »

13 Responses to “Don’t want to grow up.”

  1. Anonymous

    I am a semi-androgynous, often boyish 20-something lady, and when I push my shopping cart and then jump on the back for a ride on the way to my car in the parking lot, I get a lot of strange looks. (A lot of people, however, smile, and wish they had the balls to do it, too.)

    But, despite my childish (read as: boyish) impulses, I am strangely “old for my age” in many ways as well.


  2. Sarah-Sophia

    I totally understand this! (:
    I may act like a girl sometimes, but there is a little boy inside of me. He doesn’t plan on growing up, nor does he plan to hide forever.


  3. Milo

    Ahh!! This quote is so cool!


  4. jean c.

    when I was 4 to 10 years old, I wanted to be Peter Pan, he was the main character I saw myself as. one of my first & earliest external identifications…

    (I wanted to be mickey mouse, too, but that was because he cheated and wrote himself into all the classic tales as the hero, then made read-along book-records about his adventures! of course I wanted to be the hero of all the stories. darn media monopolies…)

    now I am in my thirties; my better understanding of my own gender identity is finally connected back to my young self… Peter Pan as an underground constant throughout my life. pretty amazing. glad that other people share the same feeling!

    and riding on the shopping cart? fastest way to get across the parking lot!


  5. gunk

    I’ve been saying almost exactly this to friends for the last little while when trying to explain my gender. My whole life, I’ve never quite been sure if I had a crush on Peter Pan, or wanted to be him. I think it’s both, which is terribly narcissistic, but also totally me.


  6. Jessica

    My sister always wanted to be Peter Pan, when she wasn’t wanting to be Errol Flynn. I recall the countless afternoons on the high seas in the upside down ironing board… I mostly wanted to be some other character that didn’t swab the decks, walk the plank, take the prisoners below, etc… (I was the youngest by a wide margin).

    I remember thinking “What a crappy, afterthought of a doll” when I saw my first GI Joe. And then I was reminded of that thought when I read about Brown vs the Board of Education comparing “good” white dolls with “bad” black dolls. Men are not from Mars and Women from Venus – they’re raised at Martian or on Venusian boarding school and saddled with stupid antiquated ideas that gent in their way for the rest of their lives.


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  9. Keanan

    I agree with the OP. I don’t want to grow up. I am sad that one day I will get older. I want to stay youthful forever.


  10. Quince

    @Sarah-Sophia: “He doesn’t plan on growing up, nor does he plan to hide forever.” I LOVE this!


  11. Aran

    I identify like this a lot of the time. My masculinity is more little-boy-masculine than macho-male-grown-up-man-masculine.

    @gunk: I am like this with a lot of boys – not sure if I have a crush on them or want to BE them. They are often boyish and androgynous.


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  13. whitetights

    this makes me smile. I love Peter Pan so much.
    and when I’m older, I’ll definitely be that person getting stares for riding the shopping cart…oh wait…that’s me already.


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