Someone wrote…

The other day at a stop light, my boyfriend and I leaned in for a quick kiss. As we pulled away from each other, we discussed how the person in the car behind us may perceive us. I have my hair cut quite short, and his hair is longer than many men’s. Did she see him as a female and me as a male? Did she see him as male and me as male? Did she see him as female and me as female? We could really be seen as either a heterosexual or homosexual couple. I laughed for the longest time.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on January 29th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Either.”

  1. Amy

    Me and my boyfriend are like this, my hair is short and shaved at the sides, he has dreadlocks halfway down his back. We’ve been mistaken for every type of couple you could think of, I love it :)


  2. Renyao

    My partner and I have a “system” (not that we take it very seriously) for telling whether or not people perceive us as a gay couple, a lesbian couple, or a heterosexual couple.

    In our experience, people tend to be a little hostile (overt stares, etc.) towards us if we’re read as gay men. If we’re being perceived as a hetero couple we tend to be mostly invisible, as that’s the norm in most places. And people (mainly men, sometimes women) tend to give us the biggest, stupidest grins if we’re being read as lesbians.

    Also, when cashiers/salespeople greet us with “ladies…” you can be 90% sure they think we’re lesbians XD


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