Fabulous.

Someone wrote…

I self-identify as fabulous.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by julian on November 18th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 14 comments »

14 Responses to “Fabulous.”

Claudius Maximus
November 18th, 2010 at 9:10 am |
I love this and I ‘m totally stealing it.

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Samson
November 18th, 2010 at 10:16 am |
ROCK. ON.

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Mad
November 18th, 2010 at 12:24 pm |
FUCK YES

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Jenn
November 18th, 2010 at 2:17 pm |
I love this! Awhile back, I commented to one of my friends that I didn’t want to and couldn’t choose ‘one or the other’ and that if (rude, non-queer, nosy)people asked what I was, it would go like this:

Them: “How do you identify?”

Me: “I identify as awesome.”

Asking a cisgender, hetronormative person that question would be pointless or rude, so why is it okay to ask me? My ‘awesome’ response is kind of like ‘fuck off’… lol

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Jessica replied:
November 18th, 2010 at 10:23 pm
Reminds me of Fangorn, on being asked upon which side he and the Ents were in the Lord of the Rings. “I’m not altogether on anyone’s side, because no one is altogether on my side.”

I had the classic experience of explaining slowly and carefully to someone that I didn’t believe in the duality of gender. “That’s very interesting,” they said, “so, which gender are you?”

I replied, “Exactly.”

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Anonymous replied:
November 23rd, 2010 at 1:37 pm
“Asking a cisgender, hetronormative person that question would be pointless or rude, so why is it okay to ask me?”

But how do you know they are cisgendered unless you ask ? Aren’t you just making assumptions about who is and who isn’t cisgendered ? I don’t see that asking is ever rude – asking is always totally awesome because it’s saying “I’m not going to assume who you are based on my own prejudices of your appearance”.

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Jessica replied:
November 23rd, 2010 at 1:51 pm
Most, but not all, cisgendered folks are fairly identifyable. If not, then I usually try and be polite and self-depreciating: “Pardon me, but I’m getting to be an old person and I can’t always tell anymore – and I really don’t want to offend you by making a mistake, but which gender are you?” Then, unless they answer in some offensive way, I thank them for being kind to me.

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Jessica
November 18th, 2010 at 10:24 pm |
I self identify as “trans” as in “transmogrifying.”

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Meike replied:
November 19th, 2010 at 4:21 am
Please tell me that’s in reference to Calvin & Hobbes, I would love you forever. In any case, I love this.

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Jessica replied:
November 19th, 2010 at 8:07 am
None other, of course. My eldest son used to wander around the house with a clipboard telling his father that his polls were seriously down. There is no better literature in English than Calvin and Hobbs.

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Anonymous
November 19th, 2010 at 11:12 am |
this is so amazing.

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freiya
November 19th, 2010 at 12:48 pm |
So very right :)
I think i’ll be borrowing this as well!

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Dayle
November 21st, 2010 at 2:47 pm |
YES!!

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Adlai
November 21st, 2010 at 4:52 pm |
On whatisgender.net, I have my gender listed as “something cool.”

On the other hand, when people ask I usually say either “I’m not a girl,” “I’m a guy,” or something like “I usually identify somewhere between male and neither.”

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