Someone wrote…

I self-identify as fabulous.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on November 18th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 14 comments »

14 Responses to “Fabulous.”

  1. Claudius Maximus

    I love this and I ‘m totally stealing it.


  2. Samson

    ROCK. ON.


  3. Mad



  4. Jenn

    I love this! Awhile back, I commented to one of my friends that I didn’t want to and couldn’t choose ‘one or the other’ and that if (rude, non-queer, nosy)people asked what I was, it would go like this:

    Them: “How do you identify?”

    Me: “I identify as awesome.”

    Asking a cisgender, hetronormative person that question would be pointless or rude, so why is it okay to ask me? My ‘awesome’ response is kind of like ‘fuck off’… lol


    Jessica replied:

    Reminds me of Fangorn, on being asked upon which side he and the Ents were in the Lord of the Rings. “I’m not altogether on anyone’s side, because no one is altogether on my side.”

    I had the classic experience of explaining slowly and carefully to someone that I didn’t believe in the duality of gender. “That’s very interesting,” they said, “so, which gender are you?”

    I replied, “Exactly.”


    Anonymous replied:

    “Asking a cisgender, hetronormative person that question would be pointless or rude, so why is it okay to ask me?”

    But how do you know they are cisgendered unless you ask ? Aren’t you just making assumptions about who is and who isn’t cisgendered ? I don’t see that asking is ever rude – asking is always totally awesome because it’s saying “I’m not going to assume who you are based on my own prejudices of your appearance”.


    Jessica replied:

    Most, but not all, cisgendered folks are fairly identifyable. If not, then I usually try and be polite and self-depreciating: “Pardon me, but I’m getting to be an old person and I can’t always tell anymore – and I really don’t want to offend you by making a mistake, but which gender are you?” Then, unless they answer in some offensive way, I thank them for being kind to me.


  5. Jessica

    I self identify as “trans” as in “transmogrifying.”


    Meike replied:

    Please tell me that’s in reference to Calvin & Hobbes, I would love you forever. In any case, I love this.


    Jessica replied:

    None other, of course. My eldest son used to wander around the house with a clipboard telling his father that his polls were seriously down. There is no better literature in English than Calvin and Hobbs.


  6. Anonymous

    this is so amazing.


  7. freiya

    So very right :)
    I think i’ll be borrowing this as well!


  8. Dayle



  9. Adlai

    On whatisgender.net, I have my gender listed as “something cool.”

    On the other hand, when people ask I usually say either “I’m not a girl,” “I’m a guy,” or something like “I usually identify somewhere between male and neither.”


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