Gender isn’t something I have to “find.”

Someone wrote…

I’ve finally realized that my gender isn’t something I have to “find” inside myself. If I’m capable of thinking of myself as genderqueer, that’s probably proof enough that I am.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on August 22nd, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 11 comments »

11 Responses to “Gender isn’t something I have to “find.””

  1. Karen

    I hit that point a few months ago, and it’s been so incredibly liberating! Congrats!


  2. mEEsh

    i realized that not to long ago myself. its quite a relief isnt it?


  3. Janus

    Maybe that’s the approach I need to take when considering transness. If I think I could be, maybe that’s all the proof I need.


    J.D. replied:

    This is the approach I’ve been taking thus far to both my genderqueerness and my transness. So far so good. I guess I just hit the point where I had the “well the only way to know for sure is to try it out” moment and its been incredibly eye opening for me so far.


    Janus replied:

    Thanks for the reply, J.D. If you don’t mind my asking, what did “trying it out” mean for you?


  4. Anonymous

    love this


  5. Jay

    Word to that!


  6. Milo

    Yeah, I find that that’s usually the best kind of proof. For while the masculine spectrum is lost on me, I can see myself equally happy as a girl or a feminine boy who LOOKS feminine. That’s good enough for me. I know the direction I want to start going physically. I can stop when I feel it’s right.


  7. Zak

    I totally agree.


  8. Levi

    Thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you. That is so very much what I needed to hear.


  9. Rosie

    You people are wonderful.


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