Go for it.

samislut wrote…

I am seventy years old. I’ve been married four times and have four kids. I love them all, wives and children each. But I’ve never had the nerve to be honest, either about my homosexuality or the desire to spend time as a woman. Still and all a good life, but less than it could have been. I hope it’s a bit easier to be all of yourself in these times but I’m sure it’s still incredibly daunting to open yourself up to the consequences, both real and perceived, to openly embrace your genders and sexuality. I applaud and envy those of you with that kind of courage— go for it my loves, go for it all.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on December 14th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 22 comments »

22 Responses to “Go for it.”

  1. Rose

    This is a beautiful post. <3

    If you ever have the opportunity to go for it, do! And be well & happy, always.


  2. Jay

    What Rose said. A truly beautiful post.


  3. Anonymous


    This is an interview by skeptic and magician James Randi. He recently came out at 81.


  4. Jess Five

    <3 Thank you.


  5. J.D.

    Thank you for your words of encouragement. You’re right, in these times it is, in some ways, easier to be open and honest with yourself about yourself, but every generation also brings with it a new set of struggles. The words you shared are the sort that we need to hear the most. They are a reminder that while things are not ideal as of yet, an incredible amount of progress has been made. It is sad to hear of your struggles, but better late than never right? I’ll be sending some good vibes your way, and hoping that you enjoy every single second you can, because life is priceless, short, and – if done properly – wonderful. Our experiences define us, and inspire others. By posting here you’ve inspired countless people, including me.


  6. Jude

    This is very inspiring.


  7. Anonymous

    You sound like an amazing person, and like Rose said, it’s never too late! But no matter what, I wish you happiness, and want to thank you for inspiring me and, I suspect, many others. ?


  8. Jessica

    I deeply appreciate your post. In many ways, as you get older, it gets harder. It is easier to just stay on the same rails you laid down in your life. Changing direction, changing identity, changing the intent and the expectation you have for your life takes so much more effort as your life piles on baggage.

    Sometimes I wish I’d decided things and begun transition in my first half century rather than in whatever is left of my second half century… but I have no regrets. I have children I love and who love me, flawed as we all are, we are each others’.

    If I regret anything, it’s the wasted times of my life when I ought to have been so much more, so much better connected, so very intentionally aware instead of intentionally oblivious.

    Samislut, I salute thee as another fellow traveler on this long road home.


  9. zen fenix

    you gave me warm & fuzzies with your honesty.
    you go for it, too! you are only 70 years young! ;)


  10. schmutzie

    Wow. I’m tearing up. These are important words.


  11. Anonymous

    This is very deep and touching, and a little heartbreaking. Words to live by, if I ever heard any.


  12. Keir

    Thank you so much for posting. Inspiring and heartfelt. We’ll all remember your words of encouragement.


  13. Milo

    You sound like an amazing person. Agreed. I found this quote to be both incredible and inspirational. And yes, while you are still alive, it is never too late.


  14. lia

    Indeed it’s never too late ! Because when you’re happy with yourself, only the now matters, and your past fades away as irrelevant.


  15. Kellye

    Thank you so much. I needed to hear this today.


  16. Declan

    This actually made me cry. Beautiful.


  17. epistemic murk

    These words will stay with me.


  18. Samson

    This makes me want to go run out into the world frantically waving my arms and going for it


    in your honor

    which I hope is something you’d want.

    Thank you.


  19. Al_Pal

    WOW. Touching. Best Wishes for everyone to Go for it!


  20. Aaryn

    I can’t convey how deeply i mean this – Thank You.


  21. Anonymous

    It is because of this post that I’ve started to come out, this post is truly inspiring for me.


  22. Slink

    Brought tears to my eyes.

    Be happy and free, however you find that path in life.


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