I don’t feel…
Someone wrote…
I don’t feel feminine enough to be a girl nor do I feel masculine enough to be a boy.
What’s your experience?
Posted by julian on November 15th, 2010 at 08:00 am
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17 Responses to “I don’t feel…”
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November 15th, 2010 at 8:47 am |
I know whatcha mean. It’s especially bad when I’m with a gang of one gender or another, because either way, I feel like I should be with the other side. Then I get there, and I feel like I should go back again because I don’t fit here either.
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Anonymous replied:
November 16th, 2010 at 7:10 am
This is exactly how I feel.
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Anonymous replied:
November 16th, 2010 at 1:34 pm
I know, right? It’s more a matter of lackings as opposed to being ___________-enough.
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November 15th, 2010 at 9:49 am |
I go through days where I feel like that, and then I go through days where I feel masculine enough AND feminine enough. In the end I usually just settle back down at an in-between point, and that used to bother me, but not so much now. If I’m with guys, I’m usually just one of the guys (unless they need advice about girls) and with the girls… well then I’m still usually one of the guys honestly, unless I’m feeling particularly feminine. In the end I just had to learn to accept that some people really aren’t either and that there’s nothing wrong with being an androgynous individual. I like to shop for clothes and shoes, but they’re mens clothes and shoes. I like to read comic books and play videogames. In then end I’m a girl-bodied boy who sometimes masquerades as a girl. Normal? that’s in the eye of the beholder. My point is, just because you don’t always “fit” doesn’t mean you should or that you have to.
Being you is about enjoying who you are, regardless of what social role people expect you to fill. Sure, I’ve gotten weird looks from the guys when I have an “awww look at the cute puppy!!” moment, but that doesn’t compromise my masculinity. And yes, I’ve gotten some weird looks from the girls when we go to the mall and they have to forcibly remove me from the comic shop. That doesn’t compromise my femininity. My point is, there’s nothing wrong with being that star-shaped peg that doesn’t fit in the square-shaped hole. In the end you just gotta be you. =D
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November 15th, 2010 at 10:31 am |
I feel the same way and I love it!
When I’m hanging around with a gang of guys or a gang of girls, I feel like my presence enables them a little to cross gender boundaries if they want to, because next to me pretty much setting fire to those boundaries, it doesn’t seem like such a big deal.
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Anonymous replied:
November 16th, 2010 at 1:36 pm
Yeah! And that’s a beautiful thing. One of my friends the other day was embarrassed that he enjoyed a “girly” movie. I just stopped and laughed. I mean…not a big deal.
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November 15th, 2010 at 11:06 am |
I feel this way exactly myself.
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November 15th, 2010 at 1:55 pm |
Good news to you: being a girl isn’t about being feminine and being a boy isn’t about being masculine.
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miko replied:
November 18th, 2010 at 6:41 pm
word
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November 15th, 2010 at 2:46 pm |
I feel femenine enough to be a girl and a boy! ;)
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Dorian replied:
November 15th, 2010 at 4:36 pm
Oh, what a lovely thing to say!
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November 15th, 2010 at 4:50 pm |
I feel exactly the same way.
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November 15th, 2010 at 6:07 pm |
I like to confuse people.
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November 16th, 2010 at 4:50 am |
Stimmt. I feel neutral enough that I could be either, but really I’m just neither. It’s a lovely kind of freedom.
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November 16th, 2010 at 6:40 pm |
I get that. I feel like I come almost in the middle sometimes. Like when I’m with girls I’m the “token guy friend” but in a female form. Whereas with guys there’s that same separation. I can relate to both but I never feel I quite fit in with either
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November 17th, 2010 at 5:28 am |
Most of the time I’m a feminine-ish fairy transboy. It’s my favorite (and so so sparkly:).
I find it the most amusing though when my friends outside of the queer fold tell me when I’m acting particularly masculine. I know they do it to support me but I can’t help but laugh when their response to a story or a behavior is “oh, yeah. Definitely male.”
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Anonymous replied:
November 17th, 2010 at 7:21 am
yay sparkly masculinity :)
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