I look at my daughter and wonder…

Someone wrote…

I look at my daughter and wonder— would I be a better mom than a dad? I look at myself and think “I want to be her mom and not her dad.”

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on August 14th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 8 comments »

8 Responses to “I look at my daughter and wonder…”

  1. danielle

    I feel the same way. I’m just glad I have daughters and not sons. I would be a terrible ‘male’ role model.


  2. Anonymous

    I think I’d just remember that I’m a parent, forget the rest, and do my best! Hah bad try at rhyming, but yea, just like being a human being first instead of boy or girl.


  3. Anonymous

    What is a terrible “male” role model?


  4. Jessica

    I used to worry a lot about this, but my children handled it so much better than I did.


  5. Ani

    If by being the best loving parent you can be is to be her mom, then you should be and she will love you more for it.

    On top of that, you will be providing an excellent role model for her by just being yourself.


  6. Anonymous

    Ultimately the only label that really matters here is ‘Parent’, the rest is just details. Be a good parent, and you needn’t worry about the illusion of gender roles.


  7. Sal

    I understand this. I’ve never wanted to be a mother however the older I get, the more I want to be a father.


  8. broseph

    I have similar feelings but I don’t have kids yet; I’m only 20. But I’m not sure I could bring a child into the world if hir would have a person like me as a father/mother/parent. I don’t think I could ever do that to another living creature, especially one I am biologically, socially, and mentally destined to love and protect. I hate to think that all my love and protection still fails to protect the person I love from my love itself. Love is pure, real, and unwavering (at least my love) but at the end of the day it still comes from me – a gender confused piece of shit.


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