I wonder…
Alex wrote…
Every time I try to bind my chest and wear my men’s clothes, I wonder what it’s like to be a boy and every time I wear my bra and my dresses, I wonder what it’s like to be a girl.
What’s your experience?
Posted by julian on October 4th, 2010 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 9 comments »
October 4th, 2010 at 11:32 am |
Being human should not be an either/or proposition. We’re pattern-seeing animals. We make patterns all the time, whether or not they exist. We learn about stuff by differentiating it from other stuff (Which of these isn’t like the other?). When we decide about things, we think that is the way they are. Our experience includes gender in all things human: from mother/father – it is one of the first discriminations we make. But don;t confuse what you’ve decided with what is.
People through finding one thing beautiful
Think something else ugly,
Through finding one person fit, find another person unfit.
Life and death, though stemming from each other
Seem to conflict as stages of change,
Difficult and easy as phases of achievement,
Long and short as measures of contrast,
High and low as degrees of relation.
But since the varying of tones gives music to the voice
And what is is the was of what shall be,
the sanest person sets up no deed, lays down no law,
Takes everything that happens as it comes,
As something to animate, not appropriate,
To earn, not to own,
To accept naturally without self-importance:
If you never assume self-importance, you never lose it.
Lao Tzu
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October 4th, 2010 at 1:36 pm |
I don’t think either would feel very different. Being me will always be sort of the same.
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October 4th, 2010 at 1:47 pm |
:)
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October 4th, 2010 at 2:07 pm |
Lao Tzu…well put.
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October 5th, 2010 at 11:12 am |
I’ve always felt somewhere in the middle as well. I’m aware there are no either-or’s but at the same time, I do wonder what its like to be born feeling like the same gender people say you are. I ask my girlfriend about it all the time.
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October 6th, 2010 at 3:39 am |
I’m going to steal that sentence and use it for the rest of my life. That is exactly it… :)
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October 8th, 2010 at 8:34 pm |
This is me. This is so, completely me.
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October 10th, 2010 at 5:12 pm |
This, so much. For me, sometimes I am neither gender, sometimes I am both, but I’ve never really understood what it’s like to just be one or the other.
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October 20th, 2010 at 8:52 am |
I am aware that there are more than either-ors, I’m usually ‘misc’ but, like, J.D, I still wonder what it’s like, in the same sense that I sometimes wonder what it’s like to be a dragon or a cat.
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