More at peace with myself.

Someone wrote…

I don’t feel like I need to transition… but I’m starting to think I’d feel more at peace with myself if I did.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on December 4th, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 16 comments »

16 Responses to “More at peace with myself.”

  1. Theo



  2. rogue

    For me, it’s quite the opposite. I’m starting to feel more at peace with both sides of my gender since I decided that transitioning would be as wrong as not transitioning. I can aim towards androgyny without it, but it would probably be easier if I was able to alter my body in the right ways.
    Keep exploring and you’ll find out what’s right for you. Good luck. :)


  3. Samson

    I struggle so hard with this. If I were to transition, I feel like the way other people see me would be so much more in line with the way I see myself, and for that reason I’d be more at peace, every damn day. But for my own comfort, when it’s just me/myself/I, I don’t feel like I need to. I don’t really know what to do.


    Popin replied:

    This is EXACTLY how I feel. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in this. <3


    Samson replied:

    It’s so nice to know -I’m- not alone too! Thank you!


    Anonymous replied:

    Oh wow, that’s also exaaaactly how I feel most of the time!


    Adrien replied:

    I feel this way too. My body is not wrong, but it is misleading.

    If transition was more accessible I would just do it! But I’m not sure if I’m willing to jump through all the hoops when my dysphoria is “only” social.


    Geoffrey replied:

    That’s the perfect word. “misleading”…i’m in the same boat.


    Pheobsky replied:

    Likewise here, it does make me smile comming here and realising I’m not alone in this ^^

    Dae replied:

    I get this. There are one or two transition-related things that I do feel like I need to do for myself, to make my body more comfortable to live in, but for the most part, I’m okay with my body. I just wish people didn’t base their impression of me on it. I don’t think I should have to make major health decisions for other people. If I do that, it should be for me.


  4. Anonymous

    I feel exactly the same way, in part because of lovely, open-minded people like those on Genderfork :)


  5. Meike

    I can totally relate to this. It’s so hard for me right now, I feel like I’m directly on the fence with all of this. Not with transitioning per se, but sort of. Top surgery on the one hand would be wonderful. On the other I don’t necessarily need it, and I have no way of knowing beforehand if it would be the right decision to get the surgery or not. I’m okay with how I am now, but would I be more at peace with surgery? And how would I even explain this to my family? It’s a tough call to make.


    Anonymous replied:

    That’s exactly where I am right now. Top surgery is so permanent and hard to explain.


  6. Anonymous

    I can sooooo relate.


  7. Anonymous

    For what it’s worth I am all for leaving ones body in tact and expressing yourself however you feel comfortable. I know it’s fucking hard sometimes but I can’t help but thinking that the more of us that blur the impossibly extreme gender lines that our society currently subscribes to, the less extreme the divide will become.

    So do whatever you want with your body, because it is all yours, but I have to say thanks to all of you out there fighting the good fight with your original parts, because maybe you gave some woman a heart attack today and had to explain to her that you were indeed in the right bathroom, but I like to think that maybe someday when I walk in to take a pee, that same women will just keep right on washing her hands.

    …plus getting major surgery kind of sucks, no?


    grant replied:

    Not all trans men transition because they are masculine, it is because they feel male on the inside. If you feel male on the inside, then its not your job to “fight the good fight” for the sake of masculine-presenting women, since you aren’t a woman. Besides, I give heart attacks to men all the time when they find out their cute gay friend was born female. This isn’t an either/or situation and I consider my body very much intact, thank you very much.


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