Profile: Susan


You can call me… susan, suz, qzen.

I identify as… a genderqueer monogamous engaged clean and sober lesbian.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … i prefer female. i’m a born & bred midwestern kid & when people use male pronouns then figure out that i’m a bio-female, they can become angry because my androgyny confused them which can be a scary situation.

I’m attracted to… bio-females, genderqueers, lipstick lesbians, bois, butchies…but most of all, i am attracted to confidence, humor, intelligence, and kindness.

the first things i notice when i meet someone are teeth, eyes, and eyebrows.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see me as just another person; imperfect, striving for progress, beautiful inside and out.

I want people to understand… that what i wear, how i cut my hair, and who i sleep with has nothing to do with who i am as a human being. i am constantly trying to better myself; i attempt to hold myself and others up to the highest good at all times.

About Susan
i defy classifications, always have. music speaks to my soul. art is a part of my being. sobriety is my number one priority. grateful only scratches the surface of how i feel about life. laughter is my second language.

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Posted by on August 2nd, 2010 at 04:00 pm

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4 Responses to “Profile: Susan”

  1. Jessica

    Do you really think “that what i wear, how i cut my hair, and who i sleep with has nothing to do with who i am as a human being”? Aren’t many of those things reflections of your personal identity, albeit as perceived by others? I mean, I could go to work tomorrow in a beautiful full-length blood red ball gown, but it would be entirely out of character for me (I wear jeans at work – I carry a pocket watch and jeans have a convenient pocket for that). People would think I had been surreptitiously replaced by some other person.


  2. Libby

    I think she’s talking about people who look at her gender presentation and make judgments about her character. How people present themselves on the outside is a part of them, and often an important part, but you can’t possibly make accurate judgments about a person’s trustworthiness, intelligence, kind-heartedness etc based on external appearance. That should be obvious, but to many people its not.


  3. Jessica

    I agree that people make all kinds of unwarranted assumptions about a person, erroneously convicting them of traits they do not have based on external appearance. Such is the nature of prejudice.


  4. susan

    libby got it right.

    i love reading this now, as i submitted it about 6 months ago and had completely forgotten.

    it still very much applies, however as of late i have been dressing more feminine. paradoxically, it makes me feel more masculine to appear feminine. i also find it powerful because i feel even more layered and submersed within gender fluidity. i find it humorous that my family seems to prefer me to appear more feminine; even complimenting my outward appearance.


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