The best compliment.
Jennikins wrote…
I’m a female-bodied queer who dresses in mostly woman-assigned clothes and who usually feels like my queerness and my gender variability gets lost in the presentation I feel comfortable with. Today a friend whom I’ve never talked to about gender told me, “I know you’re not butch, but I really don’t think of you as all woman. You’ve definitely got a masculine streak to you.” I think it’s the best compliment I’ve ever gotten from someone I’ve only known for a month.
What’s your experience?
Category: your voice 8 comments »
August 24th, 2010 at 9:56 am |
Rock on! I’m also female-bodied and since I have boobs and androgynous-to-femme-ish clothing, I usually feel the same way about my genderqueerness getting “lost” on others. It’s nice when people pick up on it.
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August 24th, 2010 at 3:41 pm |
Man, same here! I am a poor student and I cannot afford to buy a whole new wardrobe, so I feel like my queerness is invisible. It’s such a delight when people notice, or even when my friends mention it. One of my guy friends called me a “typical male” the other day, and I almost died of happiness. Even though I’m not trans, it’s great to have my gender-variance recognized. =)
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August 25th, 2010 at 12:07 am |
I found this via genderfork’s tumblr and reblogged it because I identify with this SOOOOooOOOooooooo much youdontevenknow.
THEN I came here and saw that it’s actually quoted from a friend of mine. Small fucking world. <333
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August 25th, 2010 at 12:32 am |
Sometimes I post on fashion blog/network websites, and when people say I look too “costumey” I translate that into “you look like a drag queen,” so I take it as an affirmation that I’m doing something right, despite the female reproductive organs I was born with.
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August 27th, 2010 at 3:53 pm
LOL, me too. I once had someone tell me I was a great cross-dresser and “more beautiful than a bio girl” even though I am one. XD Win!
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August 25th, 2010 at 7:15 am |
I just had a similar talk with a friend last night, and it really made me appreciate that the people I surround myself with understand me in ways I never knew they would.
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August 27th, 2010 at 7:38 pm |
My friend, the other day, being completely serious and not meaning to offend called me a “boy, girl or whatever it is that you are.” Since she’s only been told that I’m a lesbian it completely made my day.
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September 3rd, 2010 at 8:31 am |
I’m too afraid of being bullied, or laughed at, I think. When I want to be especially feminine, I’m afraid to wear certain things because I think I look silly because I’m a few pounds overweight. When I want to look especially masculine, I’m afraid that the assholes in the stupid conservative town I live in will bully me. So I just wear jeans and a T-shirt all the time.
So I totally feel this. I love when people notice the real me, outside of my comfortable presentation.
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