The more I think…

Jules wrote…

The more I think about my gender, the less convinced I am that I actually have one.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on April 23rd, 2010 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 8 comments »

8 Responses to “The more I think…”

  1. Jessica

    I usually consider myself to have many genders. Interesting how having none or having many are kind of the same.
    Reminds me of Lao Tzu:
    “And whether a person dispassionately sees to the core of life
    Or passionately sees its surface,
    The core and the surface are essentially the same,
    Words making them seem different only to express appearance.”


  2. Meike

    I hear you. The more I try to pin my gender down the more illusive it becomes; some days I really think I’m either lacking a gender, or that I’m a different gender altogether. But most days I’m just kind of all over the place.


  3. Anonymous

    I can relate.


  4. Kim

    I’m gradually accepting that this may be the reason I can’t grasp gender or associate with any pronouns or other gendered words. I am me – why do I need to be anything else?


  5. Shey

    Why should my biology define what ‘category’ I’m put into?

    I am me – and who are you to say I need to be anything else.


  6. Jessica

    It’s all about taxonomy – the obsession of the 19th century mind: Animal > Mammal > Primate > Homo > Sapiens > Female > Adult > USA > Washington > Pacific > Ocean Park > Independent > etc

    “Words…words…words I’m so sick of words, all day long it’s just words, first from him now from you, is that all you blighters can do?” – Eliza Doolittle in My Fair Lady


  7. Dream

    I feel the same, but once it’s accepted, and you know that it’s who you are, it’s really liberating. You get to do things otherwise looked at as odd, like wearing nail polish while playing football. The people around you get used to it, and soon it just becomes “oh, that’s a lovely shade.” or “great pass.”


  8. anyone

    I feel like this. I feel either “genderless” or that people are too stuck on preconceived notions to realise that we are just who we are and to fuck with “gender traits”.


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