Archive for January 2011


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Submitted by Jessica Michelle Rosales, the model. Photography by anahi de la torre.


Posted by on January 18th, 2011 at 10:00 am

faces | 4 comments »

Profile: Jordi


You can call me… Jordi

I identify as… Genderqueer and biologically female. I prefer to remain as androgynous as possible.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I usually am referred to as “she,” sometimes as “he” with people who don’t know me, or if I’m having a particularly masculine day. :) I don’t correct this (and usually feel flattered), but I prefer “she.” I still identify as a woman physically, but I don’t like to define my gender expression.

I’m attracted to… Femininity and androgyny, whether expressed by men or women. Physically I’m attracted to women who embrace and are comfortable with their femininity without using it for leverage.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Recognize me for what I do and *who* I am, rather than what I am.

I want people to understand… My gender does not define what I am able to accomplish with my life, and that social boundaries for gender expression are not healthy for anyone.

About Jordi
I’m a design major at Texas A&M, and am working towards owning my own vertically-integrated design company that works with all aspects of design and creativity. I am a leader and/or active member in GLBT and feminist groups on campus, and also own and skate in the local roller derby league. I’m also an involved Aggie and work as a Fish Camp counselor, as well as being a member of a greek sorority (SURPRISE!).

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on January 18th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Question: Binders and Sagging?


A reader asks…

I don’t like my boobs, but I’ve heard that binding will make them saggy in the long run. And I don’t really want that either. Is this true, and if yes, then what can I do??

Please post your response in the comments below.

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Posted by on January 17th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

questions | 50 comments »

Bros



bros 091, originally uploaded by ambo2006.


Posted by on January 17th, 2011 at 10:00 am

faces | 2 comments »

Label free zone.


Someone wrote…

My room is a label free zone. The words used to describe sex, gender and sexuality, even the ones I use to describe myself as best I can, are not welcome here. I leave them outside the door, beside my Star Wars shoes and my Gryffindor scarf, and then I close the door behind me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 17th, 2011 at 08:00 am

your voice | 3 comments »

The Secret garden



The Secret garden, originally uploaded by maleekmonroe.


Posted by on January 16th, 2011 at 10:00 am

faces | 3 comments »

Recommendation: How Loathsome


Rogan recommends…

How Loathsome
A comic book

This comic book was the first time I found out trans guys existed. Now, five or six years later and having plowed through a LOT of trans lit, I don’t think I could’ve done much better, as far as intros go.

Many of the characters bend gender here, and none attempt suicide, get disowned, or get bashed for it–mainly because they have other things going on in their lives. Like go to crazy parties, try to kick drugs, or perform at drag shows.

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Posted by on January 16th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Milo


You can call me… Milo

I identify as… a kinky, queer, genderqueer, polyamorous, feminist, anarcho-socialist

As far as third-person pronouns go, … sie/hir/hirself or they/them

I’m attracted to… genderqueers/androgynes, transwomen, transmen, dykes, cis-women, and a few cis-men.

When people talk about me, I want them to… use nonviolent communication, try to understand me instead of making judgements.

I want people to understand… That gender is irrelevant. There’s no reason for it. If you can’t determine what someone’s gender is, leave it alone. Why do you have to put them in a box? Just treat everyone like human beings. And I want people to understand that everyone is multi-faceted. There are as many genders as there are people.

About Milo
I’m 21 (turning 22 on April 16th, 2010). I like co-ops and Santa Cruz, CA and photography and feminism (which I study at UCSC- art and feminist studies major), reclaimed sexualities, consent culture, bodies (of all shapes, sizes, colors and abilities), critical discourse, safer sex, spinning poi, playing guitar, radical cheerleading, cuddling, singing, video games, and reading

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on January 15th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

profiles | 8 comments »

Sol



sol R1-0012, originally uploaded by ? Sol ?.


Posted by on January 15th, 2011 at 10:00 am

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Chromosomes are not…


Someone wrote…

Chromosomes are not displays of character.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 15th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Recommendation: Safe2pee


A reader recommends…

The new and improved safe2pee!
gender neutral bathrooms directory

Safe2pee has been mapping gender neutral bathrooms since 2006. At times the site was on a shaky foundation, so we went in and re-did the whole thing. There are over 2000 bathrooms listed in 500 cities. New features include the ability to add bathrooms beyond North America and leave ratings (1-5 Toilet Paper Rolls) as well as things like user accounts.

We are really pleased with the new site, and hope our community is too. Please check it out and add to it!

» Recommend something. «


Posted by on January 14th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

recommendations, websites | 2 comments »

Reflected



_MG_0161, originally uploaded by tiltedplane.


Posted by on January 14th, 2011 at 10:00 am

faces | 4 comments »

Profile: Coury


You can call me… Coury, Coury-Jameson

I identify as… pansexual, genderqueer, butchy, fluid dyke. That could change tomorrow. I kind of hope it does.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I’m currently using he/his/his or any neutrals with which you are comfortable. I like to stay away from female pronouns usually, although they don’t offend me, I’ve just heard them all my life. There are some people in my life who I really prefer that they use feminine pronouns. I’m not sure why yet. If you don’t like using them, that’s cool too. I don’t always like boxes.

I’m attracted to… Everyone. Probably you. I like people that make my skin tingle, who touch their tongues against the dip in the roof of my mouth when we kiss, who can carry on an intelligent conversation and also appreciate the vegetative state I often enter after a long day, where I make silly jokes and talk about sex and am whimsical and free about everything. Hands that look like they have a purpose, strength, nose nuzzlers, slam poets.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Know that I’m not confused, I’m learning. There’s a difference. To recognize that I am still discovering my fluidity and all the ways in which it can manifest itself. To understand that even though I don’t have the liberty of not having to explain my gender, I do have the right to being comfortable in it, and other people have the right to be comfortable too, and I will do whatever it takes to make that feeling mutual. To know that I like people, and people like me, and I want us to like each other.

I want people to understand… That I’ve had a very easy time of things so far — no big freakouts and no loss of any relationships due to my gender exploration. Thats not to say that I want things to be harder, but just be aware that they haven’t been hard in that respect for me yet. And that I am very much still learning about myself and I want nothing more than for you to say “I respect your thoughts on this and now I want you to hear mine.” And that some days, I just don’t feel like binding, so I don’t. I still use male pronouns or sometimes none at all on those days. And some days, I want to put on heels and a skirt and facial hair. So I do.

About Coury
I am 19 and go to Sarah Lawrence College. I dabble in lots of things, I study Russian, I pretend like I speak French better than I actually do. I am impermanently non-monogamous both with my romances and my best friends, I really like kissing and lemon flavored cakes. Im generally well-liked, and I really, really appreciate that. It’s hard to find something I’m not interested in learning about or doing. My best friend in NY is also named Corey. I like to be pantsless.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on January 14th, 2011 at 08:00 am

profiles | 5 comments »

Dariush, Paris



Dariush paris 2000, originally uploaded by entrechienetloup.


Posted by on January 13th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

faces | 1 comment »

Trevor



trevor – A time for Silence, originally uploaded by Michael Taggart Photography.


Posted by on January 13th, 2011 at 10:00 am

faces | 2 comments »

The nicest beard and the best hair.


Someone wrote…

I’ve got the nicest beard out of any woman I know. And the best hair out of all the men.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 13th, 2011 at 08:00 am

your voice | 1 comment »

Profile: Celia


Celia

You can call me… celia or senorita princesa. whatever you like, really, but i’ll probably turn around if you say “celia.” ehem. let’s move on then.

I identify as… queer, I GUESS. that’s the best i can do really.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … female!

I’m attracted to… attractive people? david bowie and pretty girls with long hair.

When people talk about me, I want them to… say how wonderful i am. and not call me butch or dyke or butch dyke cos it just shits me.

I want people to understand… eating animals is totally fucked up. and sexuality is way too broad for a person to be categorised as gay straight or bi. that’s annoying, people!

About Celia
i am a pretty, pretty princess.
i’m a hedonist, i don’t hurt animals and am kinda ambivalent towards people. i am mostly what people call “a good person”. which i think is pretty cool.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on January 12th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

profiles | 13 comments »

Skinny Tie



Katie Voelker, originally uploaded by Stephanie Guenther..


Posted by on January 12th, 2011 at 10:00 am

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Question: What can a 13 year old do?


Ave asks…

Being only 13 years old I cant just go out in public dressed as a boy, I’m still a kid. I can’t change my wardrobe, because then my parents and people at school will find out. What can a 13 year old can do when faced with gender identity problems?

Please post your response in the comments below.

» Ask Genderfork «


Posted by on January 12th, 2011 at 08:00 am

questions | 36 comments »

Recommendation: “What A Good Boy” by Barenaked Ladies


elfstar recommends…

A powerful song about a young person struggling to deal with society’s expectations, particularly those involving gender roles. I especially like that it doesn’t specify the genders of the protagonist or hir friend – only that they were called boy and girl at birth.

» Recommend something. «


Posted by on January 11th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

music, recommendations | 4 comments »

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