Archive for June 2011


Elizabeth



Elizabeth, originally uploaded by Mikael Georgiou.


Posted by on June 10th, 2011 at 10:00 am

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What it boils down to….


Someone wrote…

At the end of the day we are all the same thing;
Human beings.

What’s your experience?


And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 10th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Team Awesome



april 8th, 2011 (153/365), originally uploaded by atomic teacup.


Posted by on June 9th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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time is running out



time is running out, originally uploaded by mizmorphine.


Posted by on June 9th, 2011 at 10:00 am

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Flutter of hope



Polly of LesbianDad delivers a keynote at the BlogHer conference.


Posted by on June 9th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Alexander


You can call me… Alexander

I identify as… male, or recently, genderqueer tranny boy.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … male pronouns fit me best.

I’m attracted to… what aren’t i attracted to? femininity, butchiness, sweetness, boldness, funniness, acceptance.

When people talk about me, I want them to… see me for me, not the female that is physically represented there, nor the male that only makes up a fraction of who i am.

I want people to understand… that i’m human. not a gender or a stereotype. i want them to know that a person goes beyond pronouns or sexual organs.

About Alexander
i’m fifteen, and people say i’m too young to know this much about myself, i just say that you’re never too young to know who you are. i’ve never been myself, truly and comfortably, until recently. i’ve never before been able to look someone in the eye and say with confidence that i am truly happy with myself. thank god that’s changing.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on June 8th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Fuck Yeah Cheekbones!



Listening to Shirley Manson makes me dress like a boy., originally uploaded by electric_kitty.


Posted by on June 8th, 2011 at 10:00 am

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Good relationship stories?


Someone wrote…

The longest standing genderqueer couple I know’s relationship has just collapsed. Not only are they some of my best friends, they gave me hope that people could both look past my physicality and also cope with the issues concerning them & still be willing to be loved by me. I’m feeling a little low.

Could some of the readers share good relationship stories to cheer me up?

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 8th, 2011 at 08:00 am

questions, your voice | 21 comments »

Recommendation: Men Are Not Hardwired for Infidelity


Jessica recommends…

Interesting article about differences (or lack thereof) between the sexes.

» Recommend something. «


Posted by on June 7th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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Andrea Einarsdóttir



Andrea Einarsdóttir, originally uploaded by 4841.


Posted by on June 7th, 2011 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Jayden


You can call me… Jayden or Jay

I identify as… a pansexual androgynous pre-everything transmasculine genderqueer guy.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Male pronouns please. May branch out to female pronouns again in the distanct future and may branch out to other pronouns like ‘ze’ and ‘hir’. But until then just male pronouns would be accepted.

I’m attracted to… Mainly feminine and androgynous people. Guy or girl, cis or trans or intersex. I like intelligence and the ability to make me laugh.

When people talk about me, I want them to… realize that I do care about what they say and I just want to be accepted as any other person would be. For who I am rather than what I may or may not be.

I want people to understand… Female-bodied or not I am a guy. To a point I consider myself genderqueer but I feel that I need to be perceived as male because deep down that’s who I am. I’m not bothered if people mess up pronouns as long as they are accepting of who and what I am. And even if I am a guy that doesn’t mean I can’t like things that are stereotypically for girls.

About Jayden
I’m currently sixteen, soon to be seventeen in September of ’10. I’m an artist in more ways than one and love helping people. I’m out to less than a bunch of people about my gender identity but that doesn’t stop me. Self made male, and proud to one despite only coming to terms with myself recently. I’m loud, quiet, patient, easily excited, and very loyal. To be honest I’m just a big contradiction.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on June 7th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Lace Sleeves



Untitled, originally uploaded by deranging.


Posted by on June 6th, 2011 at 10:00 am

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Fluctuations


Someone wrote…

I’ve been realizing lately that my gender identity fluctuates based on how I’m read racially…

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 6th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Profile: Pink Earthling


You can call me… Pink Earthling, Pink Unicorn

I identify as… Myself. Human. Androgynous. Undefined. Unidentified. physically male, ambiguous in mind.
I have my days of ‘maleness’ and ‘femaleness’ …or whatever it is you call those things. I wake up and I put on some eyeliner, my skinny jeans and v-neck t-shirt. All I aim for is beauty. My beauty.
I identify as an individual – as another branch of this world. As a star, surrounded by many other iridescent souls seeking for a light that is not their own. I seek for my truth and my alchemy. I seek love in all I do. I identify not as a fighter but a revolutionary in my own small way.
Treading, breathing, tracing the steps and opening the path to myself, to you.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I am okay with being called whatever. Just as long as it is not done in a derogatory manner. Call me ‘he’ or ‘she’…’hir/ze’, but never an ‘it’. I am not ready to go that far to be comprehended, neither am I an object.

Some people easily jump to the conclusion that it is all the same. Yes, language is slightly flawed and words fall short when it comes to captivating the essence of our defined or undefined selves… so I leave it up to them, most of the time to determine how they wish to perceive me.
Nothing right or wrong, simply how their mirror reflects me.

I’m attracted to… People like myself. People who are original in their way…who are not afraid to push, pull and break the lines that cut through our flesh every single day. People who are not frightened to fail for an instant and get on their feet again, after having tasted the ground and their blood.
I am drawn to sincere, spontaneous and true human beings, not carbon copies…not spit images of their parents, the previous generation.

When people talk about me, I want them to… See me for more than just my outfit, my physical attributes and behold my intellect, my spirit. I do not appreciate it when they brush me off because I could not possibly understand what it means to be like them… because I come off as too fem, too soft or too ‘pretty’ and self-absorbed.
Pardon me if my presentation bothers you and cracks your preconceptions… not.

I want people to understand… That when you cut me you sever my love towards you. When you condemn me, you send thousands to their doom… when you turn your back on me, because you do not know me, you have shed innocent blood. I want them to understand that their world is not black and white, strong or weak… but complex and wondrous.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on June 5th, 2011 at 08:00 am

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Love this body, but don’t, but do.


Someone wrote…

I want someone to love my body, but when they do, I become convinced they’re misgendering me.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 4th, 2011 at 08:00 am

your voice | 5 comments »

Recommendation: Not Your Mom’s Trans 101


The Quiet Jester recommends…

Not Your Mom’s Trans 101
Weblog post, I think?

Well. I’m not entirely sure that you’ll love it, per se. But I do guarantee that it’s interesting. This is a very powerful, very eye-opening post that I stumbled upon and linked to my other friends. It’s very blunt, and-I think-perfectly captures what it really means to be ‘genderqueer’.

Here’s a snippet from the post:
“In typical trans 101 discussions, right now I would probably be explaining to you that “gender is a spectrum” and drawing a cute little line graph labeled “m” at one end and “f” at the other. But this would be fallacious, as well as total bullshit. Gender is not a line, it is a huge three-dimensional space too big to be bounded by the concepts of “male” and “female.” Being trans is not always about falling “in between” binary genders, and as often as not, it’s about being something too expansive for those ideas to have meaning at all.”

» Recommend something. «


Posted by on June 3rd, 2011 at 08:00 am

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The one without a line.


Someone wrote…

I use whatever bathroom I want, usually the one without a line.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on June 2nd, 2011 at 08:00 am

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As You Are



Untitled, originally uploaded by a-silver-spoon.


Posted by on June 1st, 2011 at 10:00 am

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Profile: Frankie


You can call me… Frankie, but for simplicity, my given name Ruth works fine. but I’ve been trying to get people to call me Francis since i was 7. I’m finally, very slowly, convincing my friends to call me Frankie. its andogynous enough to make everyone happy.

I identify as… a polysexual/soul-sexual, Genderqueer boi, Comic book Geek, punk rock wanna-be-god(dess), oxymoronic Relativist-Christian, whose mind tells the christian brain cells to get stuffed anytime the topics of gender, sexuality or marriage come up in thought or conversation with people outside of my imagination.

As far as third-person pronouns go, … Female are fine, they’ve worked for the majority of the past 21 years. but the odd masculine ones tell me I’m doing something right. I love it when the old men that come in to buy their morning coffee call me “son” or “sonny”, even though my name-tag says Ruth. but i feel kinda sorry for them when they see my name-tag and have to back-track and apologize. it’s hard to explain to 70 or 80 something people that i chose to live outside the gender binary.

I’m attracted to… human-beings. guys, girls, in-betweens. kind-hearted people with intelligence and creativity. people i can feel emotionally safe with.
Strong women (more boi than butch, but they gotta have a feminine side too). Feminine guys (but if they start acting like the girl in the relationship it’s gonna be the end of the relationship, just ask my last boyfriend Ben)..

When people talk about me, I want them to… know who i am before they speak. if they have questions and curiosities they should be speaking TO me, not ABOUT me.
if they wanna talk about me as a musician, go ahead. as a procrastinating slacker Anthropology/History student, well, that I’m accustomed to.
if they wanna talk about my clothing choices, behavior, gender, sexuality, or my religion, they can get stuffed and catch the next express bus to Hell and stay there till they’ve learned their manners and stepped into the 21st century.

I want people to understand… that my opinions are not formulated out of hearsay and fiction, but from my own experiences and beliefs. they aren’t meant as insults or attacks on another person’s religion or opinions. I just like honesty. my Christian friends are slowly getting comfortable with my blatant anti-christian beliefs, I’m sorry, but evolution did happen, if you wanna believe in Creation, then YOUR God is a monkey. mine’s a non-corporeal omnipresent spirit that forgives, not punishes, just because i chose to disagree and be different. He created me, whatever becomes of me is his plan and not completely my fault.

About Frankie
21 years old, still figuring out where i fit into this world. I’m a musician, writer, artist and student. majoring in both anthropology and history, with a minor in First Nations Studies (no, I’m not native). after this I want to go into education, because I wanna Change the world (even if it is just my little corner of it), and the only way we’re going to create a better future for anyone and everyone is to start with children and youth. and because if I had had a teacher like me, I would have been way more open to be honest to both myself and those around me. growing up being “the tomboy kid” and being mocked for having short hair isn’t the most fun childhood/teens I can imagine.

» Define yourself. «


Posted by on June 1st, 2011 at 08:00 am

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