Affectionately Fluid
Someone wrote…
Being in a relationship with another genderqueer is so fulfilling. We can be whatever or whoever we want to be. We switch our roles with such fluidity. I’m the girl, I’m the boy. They are the girl, then they are the boy. One thing that stands out though, is that we’ll always be us. Together.
What’s your experience?
Posted by Sarah Dopp on April 21st, 2011 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 13 comments »
April 21st, 2011 at 8:09 am |
This is so cute!
I don’t know that I ever feel like “the boy” or “the girl” in a relationship (which is part of what lead me to understand I’m GQ). But I know what you mean about the freedom that comes from gender role fluidity.
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April 21st, 2011 at 8:16 am |
This made me laugh with delight at my computer. I hope I can experience a freedom like this in a relationship, someday, since I just got out of being with someone who thought we were in a heterosexual couple.
radical lovely love
radical/rebel
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April 21st, 2011 at 8:51 am |
You are soooo lucky!! This is like, soooo cool. I just can’t immagine how awesome a relationship like that could be.
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Jessica replied:
April 25th, 2011 at 1:09 pm
I can imagine it, I just can’t ever seem to experience it.
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April 21st, 2011 at 10:00 am |
Like!
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April 21st, 2011 at 10:19 am |
Me too! Oh, me too. I have this conversation with my lovely love quite a lot- we are horribly smug about it. Just amongst ourselves, of course :-p But I am so happy other people have experienced the wonderfulness too!
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April 21st, 2011 at 10:59 am |
I know the feeling…I’m in a relationship with someone who’s gender is more static, but even within his gender, he has a lot of flexibility…I always feel like he’s a planet and I am the many moons swirling around him…It’s very freeing. Glad other people have similar awesome experiences!
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Lanthir replied:
April 27th, 2011 at 7:17 pm
I’m in a similar situation. My boyfriend is a straight, cis male, but he doesn’t conform to normative gender roles and he’s entirely comfortable with me being genderqueer. It’s so nice just interacting as people, without perceived gender getting in the way. (^_^)
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April 21st, 2011 at 11:39 am |
Envy!
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April 28th, 2011 at 11:51 am |
I wouldn’t be okay with being “the girl”- which is part of why I don’t date- but I still wish I could have such a relationship.
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May 5th, 2011 at 2:41 pm |
I am in a poly relationship… part of which is long distance… strange and difficult, I know.
The non-long-distance part, that sweetie is also genderqueer. It is definitely nice to have someone to talk to who understands personally the feelings I express.
However it CAN be doubly confusing when both of us are having issues, doubts and just generally don’t know who they are at the moment.
Talk about blind leading blind…
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May 11th, 2011 at 12:59 pm |
This is cute. I was giggling in the middle of the library when I read this. XD
I wish I could find a relationship like this. I think I’m the only GQ person in my area though. :(
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Jessica replied:
May 11th, 2011 at 1:08 pm
You might be surprised. As my partner says, “Everybody is genderqueer, it’s just a matter of how much they are and how much they deny it.”
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