I think I knew that deep down…

Someone wrote…

I found out that I was genderqueer the night before last. I had been considering it for a while now, going in-between states of maybe-I-am and maybe-I’m-not. But now, in full-blown glory, I spoke to a dear friend about it. And she said something that I will always remember: “You are free to express yourself in any way you see fit, and no one should hold you back from that.” And I think I knew that deep down already, but being able to really hear it in conversation changed everything for me. I feel free.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on January 9th, 2011 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 3 comments »

3 Responses to “I think I knew that deep down…”

  1. Anonymous
    January 9th, 2011 at 9:53 am |

    thank goodness for true friends!

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  2. Jessica
    January 9th, 2011 at 12:36 pm |

    Be gentle and careful with yourself. There is a tendency many people have, in the first blush of feeling and discovery to go way overboard for a while. Be patient with yourself and don’t regard every feeling as an irrevocable choice. Discovery is good. Contemplation is better and sharing is best.

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  3. Meike
    January 9th, 2011 at 3:27 pm |

    I agree with Jessica, but I also am so happy for you that you feel free. Best of wishes to you.

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