Memories & The Past
Someone wrote…
Memories of being a different gender are wonderful, as long as I don’t have to deal with the past.
What’s your experience?
Posted by Chris on August 12th, 2011 at 08:00 am
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August 14th, 2011 at 10:08 am |
I sometimes wish to be rid of my gendered past, simply because it really was tied to one of the binary genders and I am now starting to identify as the other. The transition is inhibited by my feelings of being fake, since there is no ‘evidence’ in my past. Only a wish in the present.
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Jessica replied:
August 15th, 2011 at 1:03 am
So, having been “tied to one of the binary genders” you’re now becoming tied to the other? In my experience, some people try to validate and justify their choices by imaginatively reinventing their past. There is not evidence that this is a strategy that results in people who are happier with their lives. The truth has a nasty way of reasserting itself and living in denial is a lousy way to arrive at your future.
Sometimes, when you feel like a fake, there is a good reason and if you fail to listen, you may find yourself regretting many choices you can’t take back for a refund.
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