Memories & The Past

Someone wrote…

Memories of being a different gender are wonderful, as long as I don’t have to deal with the past.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on August 12th, 2011 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 2 comments »

2 Responses to “Memories & The Past”

  1. Stina

    I sometimes wish to be rid of my gendered past, simply because it really was tied to one of the binary genders and I am now starting to identify as the other. The transition is inhibited by my feelings of being fake, since there is no ‘evidence’ in my past. Only a wish in the present.


    Jessica replied:

    So, having been “tied to one of the binary genders” you’re now becoming tied to the other? In my experience, some people try to validate and justify their choices by imaginatively reinventing their past. There is not evidence that this is a strategy that results in people who are happier with their lives. The truth has a nasty way of reasserting itself and living in denial is a lousy way to arrive at your future.

    Sometimes, when you feel like a fake, there is a good reason and if you fail to listen, you may find yourself regretting many choices you can’t take back for a refund.


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