No answer.

Someone wrote…

I was asked how I identify for the first time ever. I had dreamed about that moment for years.

And I had no answer.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on April 19th, 2011 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 4 comments »

4 Responses to “No answer.”

  1. Jessica

    That’s always the way of things. Especially those things you dread/hope for. They never play out the way you thought they would. On the down side, nothing is every as good as it is supposed to be. On the up side, nothing is ever as bad as we fear it will be.


  2. J.D.

    To be honest I’ve had the same thing happen, only for me I was speaking at a gender and sexuality symposium and when it came time to address my identity I froze up for a good thirty seconds and had to really think about the answer. Jessica is right, I found that thing I had most anticipated was also the most confounding and confusing. You’re definitely not alone.


  3. Rich

    I was in a focus group a few weeks ago, and one of the questions asked for an ice breaker was which pronouns we prefer. But when it was my turn, I totally forgot to answer the pronoun question.


  4. ryan

    thank you genderfork/anonymous contributor for this comment. it most definitely made my day.

    for me, its like… ive always dreamed of people asking me about how i feel/identify, instead of assuming i lump myself into X category/identity, but then when that moment comes, i too slightly freeze. i find its difficult, for me, to associate with ANY category actually…mainly because identifying with an identity is more so about similarities, which then leads to compiled generalizations/stereotypes…which then leads right back to assumptions. lol. maybe im looking at it the wrong way tho; who knows. but for me, being more so in a space of refusal to identify seems to work for me : )


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