You can call me… Adrienne. I like my given name. “A” has been my nickname since childhood, and it always warms my heart when someone calls me that.
I identify as… a pansexual, genderqueer young woman. Depending on my mood, I like to be either naturally female or a pretty, androgynous boy. Most of the time you will see me in the gray area in between. In fact, I’ve been trying to grow my hair out to my back for years, but have been unsuccessful in that I keep giving myself a fauxhawk whenever I want to be a boy. Really, I’m just an arty human being.
As far as third-person pronouns go, … “she” is fine. I enjoy my femininity, but I feel and present many traits that are more masculine. Even when I present my androgynous boy side, I don’t mind being referred to as a woman. However, if someone called me “he,” I would be flattered.
I’m attracted to… androgynous boys, mostly, but I have been infatuated with a lesbian genderqueer woman. Androgyny is really the bottom line for what I am attracted to, and I like to look like what I’m attracted to. I am actually engaged to a pretty boy, who is mostly straight, but he loves my pansexuality and my androgyny. The time when he let me do his eyemakeup made me feel so lucky, loved, and so accepted.
When people talk about me, I want them to… respect the fact I do not model my sexual and gender preferences on what society expects them to be. Some people hardly even consider it. For others it is not as easy to submit to one’s true self. As I grew up and realized my sexuality and gender preferences, it never occurred to me that I should change myself into something more acceptable to society. I want people to respect that flesh is flesh and love is love. And if I look good as a boy, why complain?
I want people to understand… that just because a person is proud of their sexuality (whether they are straight, gay, anything in between, or all of the above) it doesn’t always mean they intend to shove it in others’ faces. I have had people ask me if I thought I was getting enough attention, because of the way I looked in my boy clothes and bare face. I told them, “That’s not what this is about. It’s just how I feel.” It also doesn’t always mean that trans/genderqueer or gay, bi, etc. people are, by nature, promiscuous. See a person’s beauty, not how that beauty was achieved or how it would be classified.
I am a 23-year-old artist, singer, fashion and interior designer and poetry/fiction writer who is self-taught. I’ve educated myself on fashion history to an obtuse extent. My love for music is so deep and grand that it sometimes consumes me. My dream job-title would be “aesthetic consultant.” I am proud of my taste and learning of beauty in all its forms, and I hope that I can make the world a more beautiful place, for my part.
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