Profile: Logan

You can call me… Logan

I identify as… Genderqueer, Androgynous, Boi, Gender-Fluid, Masculine-Feminine Switch, Passionate, Ambiguous, Gender Ninja, Transgender, Two-Spirit, Polysexual, Dyke, Soft Butch, Queer, Gay, Gender-Bending, Gender-Awesome..

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I prefer gender neutral pronouns. I have no steadfast pronoun rules, I go with whatever feels right at the time. ‘Ze’ is always warm and fuzzy to hear. Second to that, male pronouns are wonderful, especially masculine terms such as ‘gentleman’ or ‘mister’. Anything but ‘ma’am’ or ‘lady’. I can handle female pronouns, preferably when accompanied with my chosen name. In general, I believe the world could live without the importance of pronouns. No single word could possibly encompass an entire being, and while I appreciate the respect garnered through pronouns, nothing could compare to the sound of my chosen name.

I’m attracted to… Individuals with compassion, acceptance, intellect, optimism, and maturity. Fluidity. Label-wise, I generally find myself attracted to individuals who identify as female and trans men. Physically, I have a weakness for tattoos, piercings, and interesting hair. I look to the heart of a person, not the anatomy. I am attracted to individuals who focus on my sparkling personality over all else. I enjoy and appreciate both masculinity and femininity and desire the complete acceptance of my identity as both male and female. I am attracted to courage, strength, equality, and honesty. Individuals who are able to see past the surface of virtually anything, and view overwhelming beauty in the ordinary.

When people talk about me, I want them to… Realize that differences in gender do not define the worth of a person any more than differences in eye color. Look into my eyes. Focus on the person I am and the change I can bring to the world, neither of which are contingent upon my gender identity. Ask intuitive and insightful questions, allow me to educate and describe myself without assumption. Feel free to discuss my gender expression and identity, my very existence prompts this, and I would be delighted to open another individual’s mind to the world beyond the binary. Treat me with the respect that all beings deserve. Realize that while I am more than gender, I adore exploring and discussing my identity. Remember my identity as Genderqueer allows me the freedom to exist as I please, and my existence is to be respected.

I want people to understand… I am a person deserving of acceptance in every aspect of my identity, free from judgment. That I feel comfortable within my identity regardless of any changes in my appearance that may negate such an identity. I view my daily gender expression through clothing and posture as a form of drag, and I adore every minute of it. Gender expression and identity is about far more than outward expression, and I relish in the days where I can feel masculine while dressed feminine, and the reverse. The ability to express myself and be viewed as masculine allows me to comfortably explore areas of my being that are feminine. I posses insecurities over whether or not I fail to appear as masculine and androgynous as I am, so to have my identity accepted without question can be a luxury. That I take absolutely no offence to questions or confusion, as long as this is handled with respect and a genuine willingness to learn. I would like people to understand that they do not have to understand me, I only wish for them to accept and love me for the person that I am, all-encompassing, down to the minute expressions of my identity. My gender expression is not an act of rebellion, it is an act of showing the unique individual that I am. Gender is not the whole of who I am as a secular being, yet it is a major aspect that influences my daily life, and I adore expressing and speaking of this. That no individual has the right to label, characterize, or judge any individual’s identity. It is an insult of magnanimous proportions to assume the responsibility or dictating another’s identity.

About Logan
I believe that ambiguity and living outside the binary are two things that are both terrifying and wonderful, places I truly feel at home. I believe in rising out of turmoil and hardship in order to grow stronger and live again, which I try to exhibit through my being and is the reason I have a tattoo of a Phoenix, rising from the ashes. I believe that life is meant to be lived and experienced, not simply witnessed. I believe that the banal aspects of life are the most beautiful, and in finding the beauty in that which others pass unnoticed. I am grateful for every hardship and difficulty I have experienced, for they are what has made me strong. I am an eternal optimist, and proud as hell to be myself and portray differences, as it took me ages to get to that point. I believe in living openly and courageously, without regret. I believe that courage is not the absence of fear, but the judgment that something else is more important than fear. I believe in love and laughter, even in the bleakest moments where such thoughts seem ridiculous. On a lighthearted note, I also believe that chocolate is the cure for all evil.

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Posted by on March 1st, 2011 at 08:00 am

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7 Responses to “Profile: Logan”

  1. Popin

    So many inspirational words!

    “Anything but ‘ma’am’ or ‘lady’. I can handle female pronouns, preferably when accompanied with my chosen name.”
    Totally with you, on that one! I can’t stand Miss, either. I wish there was a gender neutral honorific that didn’t involve getting a degree. :/


  2. Jessica

    So, I guess “Missy” or “Honey” or “Darling” would be really out of your comfort zone. It always used to bug the crap out of me to have some “gentleman” say, “Here, let me help you with that, Honey.”

    “The ability to express myself and be viewed as masculine allows me to comfortably explore areas of my being that are feminine.” Right-On!

    “chocolate is the cure for all evil.” Don’t forget that the root of all evil is 25.8070 (or 24.8193 depending).


  3. Lisa

    You have beautiful eyes!


  4. Anonymous

    you have such a lovely face! very open and bright, as are your eyes :]


  5. Anonymous

    You are beyond cool. Also…”I believe that life is meant to be lived and experienced, not simply witnessed. I believe that the banal aspects of life are the most beautiful, and in finding the beauty in that which others pass unnoticed.” = yes, yes, and yes.


  6. Anonymous

    Protip: if you’re non-Native, using the term two-spirit:
    -is offensive
    -is appropriation
    -makes no sense; it has a specific spiritual, cultural, and historic context that you are not a part of.

    You seem like a cool person otherwise, so I’m hoping you understand that.


    Jessica replied:

    It depends, if you like the term, you can say that “I feel great harmony with two-spirit people, they make me wish I lived in a healthy culture that included people of difference, not a puritanical one that marginalized them.”

    Just because your own heritage didn’t originate a thing does not mean you can’t use a good idea, so long as you don’t steal their thunder. How many original ideas has Western Civilization actually come up with, without help? It’s strength lies in assimilating the best ideas of all kinds of people together into an amalgam of best practices. At least that’s the positive way to look at it.


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