Profile: Magdelyn

You can call me… magdelyn

I identify as… transcendental idealist tranz explosion (or just transcendental tranny).

As far as third-person pronouns go, … I don’t care.

I’m attracted to… big beautiful black men; drunk women who are shamelessly inappropriate; lonely people; the disabled; losers; the disenfranchised; the despised; sex offenders; punks (in the late 1970’s, early 1980’s presentation) and older men who express traditional notions of masculinity.

When people talk about me, I want them to… be shocked by my audacity.

I want people to understand… I am who I am. I won’t apologize for not fitting into the gender binary. Nor will I apologize for not fitting into some queer theory category. I won’t conform my opinions to make you feel comfortable. I don’t care about your ideology, nor your cultivated indignities. If I offend you, “fuck you.”

About Magdelyn
Maggie is a self-hating, self-destructive, profoundly lonely, stupid broad.

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Posted by on April 19th, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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14 Responses to “Profile: Magdelyn”

  1. Anonymous

    What I wouldn’t do to meet the likes of you.
    You seem kick-ass.

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  2. Anonymous

    Not to say I know you, but from what you have said, please don’t hate yourself…you are a beautiful person.

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  3. Quinn

    Holy crap you’re amazing! And you have a bob! *swoons* I think I’m in love!

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  4. Clare

    John Keating: Sucking the marrow out of life doesn’t mean choking on the bone.

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  5. G

    I know this is going to sound petty. Or I fear it will sound petty, but you’re attracted to sex offenders? The first time I felt completely disgusted by my female body was the day someone was inapropriate with me. Before that, I was just a tomboyish teen. Now I’m a gender dysphoric twenty-year-old who doesn’t want to be a girl because being a girl equals being prey.

    I’m happy to have learned a lot about gender in the meantime, but for me, part of the recovery is still trying to come to terms with being a girl again. In theory, I love that gender is a spectrum, but in reality, my gender often makes me feel sad and tired and powerless, and that is something that was inflicted on me by one of the most horrible people I know. (He’s a relative.)

    I also worry I might be the only one who’s upset by this, but I really don’t think this is something to romanticize. Also, have you seen the statistics when it comes to trans women and rape? I kind of expected this community to be more aware.

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    Jessica replied:

    Just so. Want the complete, authentic female experience: get groped unexpectedly by someone you were so not attracted to.

    I never hated my body. I was indifferent to it. But during my transition (which is and may always be occurring) I have come to like my body, which is great but kind of a shame as my partner says my body is now “creepy.”

    It’s never easy is it.

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    Anonymous replied:

    I have to agree with G here, my child is FTM because of a sex offender who decided to change his whole life at the age of four. Making it impossible for him to feel safe being a girl. No justice, no conviction. I know you said you don’t care if you offend but it’s more than offending. Sitting in psychotherapy with my child every Wednesday is very hard. And watching him bind, and worrying about the side effects of binding at only 14 is also very hard.

    He is desperate for T and surgery. He can’t go swimming, sleepovers, doesn’t even go to school. All because of a sex offender.

    I am happy for him to transition….I just wish it was because he was born with it, not because of a man who’ll never suffer as my child does.

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    Jessica replied:

    I am not sure what words to use here. I feel deeply for your pain and the pain of your child. I hope that the two of you can find joy in life and living of every moment without the tarnish of the past diminishing it for you.

    Sometimes I forget how fortunate and relatively free of strife and pain my life has been. May you find where you are going in like where you arrive.

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    Stuart replied:

    I also feel like that section was problematic on many levels, including the ones already mentioned. I feel like when a person speaks to being attracted to a marginalized group of people–for example, “the disabled” or “black men”–that it fetishizes particular kinds of bodies in a way that does not honor the multiple dimensions that people have among each other. I feel like this language becomes particularly vicious when these oppressed groups of people are included on a list with “losers”, “sex offenders” and “the despised”, suggesting that there is a common element between them.

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    Nikolai replied:

    I interpreted it differently. I think by putting those who might be found particularly attractive by some, like black men and punks, with those who are generally not found attractive – or even those who are shunned – Magdelyn wished to express the potential attraction to anyone. Regardless of past or social status. Particularly since ze specifies “the despised.” That inclusion seems particularly relevant. Sex offenders are clearly despised. That may not have been the intent, but that’s how I read it. Though admittedly the inclusion of sex offenders made me do a double take.

    As for fetishising, particularly in regards to black men – I disagree. No one would have a problem with putting “green eyes” or “tall men” on the list. If “tall black disabled men” was the entirety of the list, that would be fetishised. But I don’t see a problem with being particularly attracted to certain physical aspects, almost everyone is to some extent.

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    Stuart replied:

    I hear what you are saying Nikolai, but I think it is important to acknowledge that having a black or disabled body has historically been used to position a person in a particular social location, and tallness or green eyes have not historically been used in this way. A main point I tried to make was that I felt like the language used to describe groups of people treated them as if these groups are monolithic.

  6. Chuck

    Well, obviously I can’t speak for Magdelyn, or what she/he/ze meant….but I did want to point out that the term “sex offenders” may very well not have been meant to refer to pedophiles…I can think of two other definitions of the word: 1- There are people who are registered sex offenders due to less than just circumstances. Examples would be an 18-year-old male with a 17-year-old boyfriend, or, I knew of someone who was propositioned by an undercover male policemen in a men’s room and somehow ended up on the sex offenders list, even though they were the one who was underage at the time! ….Also, some people use the term “sex offender” to mean someone who offends against traditional sexual tabboos….For those of you who have had to deal with the pedophile type of sex offenders, I am so truly sorry that you or your loved ones have had to endure this, and I can certainly see why that would have been upsetting to you to read it in this context…Just wanted to point out that we dont realy know what the original poster meant by it, so it may not mean what you think it does. (or it may, but my point is we dont know)

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    Joanna replied:

    Sex offender is an umbrella term not unlike ‘transgender’ that describes a variety of different people and their behaviours. It puts PeeWee Herman in the same company as Ted Bundy yet there is nothing at all similar about there offenses or there lives. Most men that have the le#gal distinction of ‘sex offender’ attached to their names are guilty of the heinous crime of getting drunk and exposing themselves at the wrong time or place. For this they are effectively. banned from living in the cities of California.

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  7. math

    truly fascinating profile. being attracted to sex offenders must be challenging. no joke.

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