Question: “Cross-dressing” yet passing

Dante asks…

Summer is here and while I’m ftm I would really like to wear a dress. Assigning gender to clothing is silly and dresses are comfortable when it’s hot out. At the same time though, I don’t want to be read as a girl. Has anyone tried to “pass” while also technically sort of cross-dressing?

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Posted by on October 3rd, 2011 at 04:00 pm

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8 Responses to “Question: “Cross-dressing” yet passing”

  1. Franklin

    Sometimes I try to pass as a really feminine male. For instance, I’ll wear a girly shirt and jeans while I have my binder on. Once I even went out with fake facial hair and high heels.


  2. Jasper

    I’m really interested in doing this myself, and I’ve been trying to figure out how. I think there are a couple important points to try to be read as male-in-a-dress. I haven’t achieved it but these are the ideas i’ve come up with so far:
    1. find a way to bind (no ace bandages!), either via a strapless binder or having a dress that covers binder straps.
    2. find a dress with an androgynous shape. It seems that empire waist dresses kind of make hips ambiguous. Any other types of dresses that do similar things?
    3. it helps to have a haircut that’s not often read as femme. Some haircuts that can be read as male in some contexts can be read as “pixie” cuts in others, so that’s a consideration for wanting to be read as male-in-a-dress.
    4. … any more that anyone else can think of?


  3. Kawa

    Just thinking off the top of my head things that male-bodied people struggle with when trying to pass as female:

    * body hair and facial hair. If you can emulate the look of stubble and make your arm and leg hair obvious, that can do a lot.
    * Male brows are thicker and longer. If you have significant eyebrows, try gelling them so they stick up and out, which makes them look more unkempt.
    * masculine jaws and brow bones are more angular, and many who work to be read as female use dark-toned matte makeup to create artificial shadows to soften the jawline. Try the reverse – use light-toned makeup on the jaw line and brow bone to emphasize strong features. Don’t use anything too shimmery or fake, but a subtle effect could be very nice.

    As others mentioned, investing in a good binder will do wonders as well. And don’t forget body language, always the most important part of passing in any direction!

    Good luck!


  4. Lane

    One word; kilts!


  5. Brett Blatchley

    Kilts? Oh, I like that one!!!!


  6. Anna

    hulky posture helps to pass as a guy in drag
    high boots also help


  7. Demian Y.

    Word to the kilts.

    And good luck if you choose to wear a girl’s skirt – I mean that honestly, because it’s likely that if you don’t get read as a girl you’ll get some violent reactions.


  8. Rachel

    A thought from the MtF perspective – observe and emulate a male walk and body language. I’ve done the reverse, and it fools people who aren’t paying attention too closely. If you can do a male voice, even better, but I’m assuming that’s as hard to do as managing a female voice is for someone who spends 95% of his time as a bloke :)


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