Question: What term should I use?
Dakota asks…
I am biologically female and I am androgynous (except for my boobs). I like to dress feminine and masculine, depending on how I feel. The term “girl” just doesn’t feel right to me. But I know I’m not a “boy”.
What (if there is any) term is commonly associated with this?
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June 16th, 2011 at 4:11 pm |
I personally identified as an androgyne when I felt this way, except I didn’t really switch from dressing feminine and masculine on some days, just androgynous all the time. I might also describe myself as a genderfluid person or something were I in your situation. Now I just identify as “queer” or “other” or “butch” as a gender. Male or female? Pshaw.
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June 16th, 2011 at 4:25 pm |
Exactly my situation.
I go with “female” because I don’t really care what people call me, and that’s what I am biologically. It’s not that I actually identify as female all that strongly; it’s just that I don’t really care which way I go, so it doesn’t really feel wrong. The only thing that really feels wrong is when people make assumptions about me based only on the idea that I’m female. Every gender-related test puts me smack in the middle, whether neurologically, sociologically, or psychologically, and while I don’t mind being called female, I do mind when people think it means anything more than the biology.
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Anonymous replied:
June 17th, 2011 at 3:31 am
this is about where I am
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Als replied:
June 18th, 2011 at 3:32 am
“while I don’t mind being called female, I do mind when people think it means anything more than the biology”
Perfectly put, thank you. I may use this when explaining my position to family and friends.
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June 16th, 2011 at 7:04 pm |
I’m in a similar situation, identity-wise, and I go by androgyne, genderqueer, and/or trans*. I feel partially androgynous, partially outside the binary/spectrum altogether.
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June 17th, 2011 at 2:36 am |
in body I identify as trans because I want the “other” regarding that. but as regards to Gender Identity I am totally androgynous and feel that its kinda fluid. The gender stereotype thing does not suite me.
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June 17th, 2011 at 8:40 am |
“Human” comes to mind. On forms I usually put “homo sapiens.” When faced with the typical (M/F) [box], my partner routinely writes in “Y.”
Neither of us feels much like an “Other” although I like seeing that choice on the forms.
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June 17th, 2011 at 2:08 pm |
This is me. :) On a typical day I wear jeans and a band tee with feminine make up. I realized that I am an androgyne and this makes me feel so free. Sometimes I feel like my boobs cheat me out of being more masculine when I feel that way, but I still like them. I welsome all non-derrogatory pronouns and attitudes, as well. Gender can be fluid, we just need to ride that wave.
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June 17th, 2011 at 6:24 pm |
I’ve been known to use the term “Gender Ambidextrous” but that may not apply – only you can really know. =)
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Anonymous replied:
June 20th, 2011 at 11:02 am
Wow, “gender ambidextrous”, I totally love it!
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June 18th, 2011 at 9:18 am |
I know how you feel. I am in a similar situation, and I tend to identify myself as either Androgyne or Genderfluid.
However, labels aren’t important as long as you are comfortable with who and what you are :)
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June 18th, 2011 at 1:58 pm |
There’s the term neutrois, but I’m not sure how it’s different from androgynous.
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June 18th, 2011 at 3:09 pm |
I am in the same position.
I try to dress femininely or masculinely depending on my mood. Recently, I’ve been feeling a bit more masculine than normal, but it’ll swing back soon, I’m sure.
I typically either use male/female to match my mood on any given day, or I go with genderqueer or Androgyne.
I hope you can figure it out soon!
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June 18th, 2011 at 11:04 pm |
You can always shop around a bit: http://www.kreativekorp.com/miscpages/gender/gender.pl
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July 4th, 2011 at 11:57 pm |
I am in the same position, but in the end, I identify as Third Gender: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_gender
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July 5th, 2011 at 12:11 am |
i think that the only true label for any of us should be Human Being – and to be accepted as such. Society holds open the jail door – why should we walk in?!!!
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Jessica MacGilvray replied:
July 5th, 2011 at 12:13 am
Exactly so.
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