Stranded Between Genders

Lady K wrote…

I feel stranded between genders. Biologically female, behaviorally much less so. I get respect from neither butch nor femme.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on August 20th, 2011 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 5 comments »

5 Responses to “Stranded Between Genders”

  1. Peafowl

    I know just what you mean. I’m already a little socially disconnected, largely due to my perception of the world…(I’ve always been that weird, really smart kid)…but this is exacerbated by my gender-in-between-ness.


  2. Meike

    Exact same situation here. It’s frustrating, but that’s when I look on Genderfork and find comfort in the fact that I’m not the only one.


  3. Jess

    Welcome to the human race. If you want to conform to a stereotype, then you will be respected by the millions of people who believe in that stereotype. Your performance of their stereotype prejudice justifies and validates them: hence respect. Of course it’s fake respect.

    Real respect comes from self-respect. When you believe in yourself and respect others, you earn respect. It doesn’t come free.


    radical/rebel replied:

    these are really wise words that have inspired some deeper thinking in me. thanks for writing



  4. radical/rebel

    This has been bothering me.

    Gender (socially constructed) and sex (biological anatomy) are not the same thing. “Female” is the sex, and “woman” is the gender that’s believed to match “female” sex.

    There’s no such thing as “female behavior” or “acting like a female,” because female is biological.

    What you mean is that you don’t exhibit typical “feminine” (a word for gender) or “womanly” behavior.


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