Taking on the World

Someone wrote…

In a bra, I feel invisible. In a binder, I feel like I can take on the world.

What’s your experience?


And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on October 31st, 2011 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 11 comments »

11 Responses to “Taking on the World”

  1. Joss/Ame

    I know EXACTLY how you feel! I’ve also found that when I wear more male clothing, I am much less of an awkward dancer…

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  2. Lane

    Before I transitioned, I felt like a ghost, hovering above a marionette body. People interacted with the marionette, but I myself was invisible. Once I started going by a new name and male pronouns, I felt that I’d started to actually inhabit my own body.

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  3. karma

    True for me in reverse. With my feminisation comes the ability to confidently speak to people, tell a joke, and flirt. All new experiences that only came with finding my truer identity. Ty for sharing.

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  4. Regen

    SO TOTALLY TRUE.

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  5. Dorian

    Oh how I agree!

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  6. Thomas

    its amazing how something as simple as flattening your chest can completely change your life.. my binder is the best $30 i have ever spent. I’m not emo or goth, but I’ve always been a very angry and emotional person. Now I no longer get accused of PMSing just because my mood doesn’t fit with what everybody else believes to be appropriate. I can be happy just randomly wearing men’s formal wear to school without it being awkward. I’m learning that I’m not actually that angry of a person when people understand and accept me as I want to be accepted; but I still have a tendency to get pissed of when people are too ignorant to accept/understand me, especially when they/SHE claims to know me.. whoops, sorry for the mini rant. Even my cisgender female friends get pissed off at ignorant people. which just makes me a little bit happier. :D

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  7. Lee

    I feel the same way. Little things like being able to run or climb stairs without feeling “THAT feeling” really make a difference. Plus it boosts my confidence and self esteem.

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  8. Anonymous

    trigger warning: could be triggering in that it could remember people of unwanted sexual attention? also it’s about not liking having breasts so dysphoria warning?

    i feel the opposite with a bra on. i feel exposed and out of place, like my chest is out of control. it’s a disturbing feeling.
    here’s to hoping a binder makes a difference! who knows, it could be great.

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  9. Jimmy

    It’s so legitimizing to hear other people saying exactly how I feel.

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  10. Elissa Marcelle

    I totally agree with user Karma, it’s the same feelings in reverse. Ever since coming out 18 months ago and buying my first bra 7-8 months ago, I’ve become so much more empowered and confident, when you are truly embracing who you are, nothing and no one can stand in your way!!! I <3 Genderfork! It allows an average MAAB trans girl like me to see the much wider spectrum of what gender is to other people, I adore all of you, and your freakin' amazing!!! *hugs* :3

    May the Goddess bless your Journey,
    and May the Force be with You, Always…

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  11. Kyree

    I agree. The first time I wore a binder, I felt like I could throw my shoulders back and walk proudly for the first time in a while. I feel like people see me without throwing questioning lookings at the clothes I wear. I feel handsome. I like feeling handsome.

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