Taking on the World
Someone wrote…
In a bra, I feel invisible. In a binder, I feel like I can take on the world.
What’s your experience?
Posted by Chris on October 31st, 2011 at 08:00 am
Category: your voice 11 comments »
11 Responses to “Taking on the World”
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October 31st, 2011 at 11:33 am |
I know EXACTLY how you feel! I’ve also found that when I wear more male clothing, I am much less of an awkward dancer…
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October 31st, 2011 at 12:50 pm |
Before I transitioned, I felt like a ghost, hovering above a marionette body. People interacted with the marionette, but I myself was invisible. Once I started going by a new name and male pronouns, I felt that I’d started to actually inhabit my own body.
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October 31st, 2011 at 2:32 pm |
True for me in reverse. With my feminisation comes the ability to confidently speak to people, tell a joke, and flirt. All new experiences that only came with finding my truer identity. Ty for sharing.
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November 1st, 2011 at 9:32 am |
SO TOTALLY TRUE.
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November 1st, 2011 at 11:02 am |
Oh how I agree!
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November 1st, 2011 at 9:07 pm |
its amazing how something as simple as flattening your chest can completely change your life.. my binder is the best $30 i have ever spent. I’m not emo or goth, but I’ve always been a very angry and emotional person. Now I no longer get accused of PMSing just because my mood doesn’t fit with what everybody else believes to be appropriate. I can be happy just randomly wearing men’s formal wear to school without it being awkward. I’m learning that I’m not actually that angry of a person when people understand and accept me as I want to be accepted; but I still have a tendency to get pissed of when people are too ignorant to accept/understand me, especially when they/SHE claims to know me.. whoops, sorry for the mini rant. Even my cisgender female friends get pissed off at ignorant people. which just makes me a little bit happier. :D
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November 2nd, 2011 at 9:52 am |
I feel the same way. Little things like being able to run or climb stairs without feeling “THAT feeling” really make a difference. Plus it boosts my confidence and self esteem.
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November 2nd, 2011 at 12:58 pm |
trigger warning: could be triggering in that it could remember people of unwanted sexual attention? also it’s about not liking having breasts so dysphoria warning?
i feel the opposite with a bra on. i feel exposed and out of place, like my chest is out of control. it’s a disturbing feeling.
here’s to hoping a binder makes a difference! who knows, it could be great.
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November 4th, 2011 at 12:24 pm |
It’s so legitimizing to hear other people saying exactly how I feel.
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November 5th, 2011 at 9:22 am |
I totally agree with user Karma, it’s the same feelings in reverse. Ever since coming out 18 months ago and buying my first bra 7-8 months ago, I’ve become so much more empowered and confident, when you are truly embracing who you are, nothing and no one can stand in your way!!! I <3 Genderfork! It allows an average MAAB trans girl like me to see the much wider spectrum of what gender is to other people, I adore all of you, and your freakin' amazing!!! *hugs* :3
May the Goddess bless your Journey,
and May the Force be with You, Always…
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January 1st, 2012 at 12:51 pm |
I agree. The first time I wore a binder, I felt like I could throw my shoulders back and walk proudly for the first time in a while. I feel like people see me without throwing questioning lookings at the clothes I wear. I feel handsome. I like feeling handsome.
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