What I Want… and don’t Want

Someone wrote…

I don’t want to be a woman. I don’t want to be a man. I want to be me. With a flat chest. Wearing a dress with cute tights one day and men’s shirt and pants another. I’m greedy that way. I want it all. At the same time I want nothing at all.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?

Posted by on July 17th, 2011 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 6 comments »

6 Responses to “What I Want… and don’t Want”

  1. Light.

    I feel exactly the same as you do. :)


  2. Anonymous

    I like the neither option too…


  3. kdanger

    This resonates with me so much.


  4. Rebecca

    I feel very similar. I am not going to give up playing team sports in 100 degree heat, but after the sweating and competition, I love to come home and wear a skirt and silk top. I have stopped trying to be either/or. Good luck.


  5. Anonymous

    I was JUST telling my partner this last night. I am not one thing or the other, I’m a combination of both. Realizing that makes me feel good.


  6. Puck

    I hear ya, mate. I’ve recently been trying to explain to my family that I am simultaneously neither and both. I spend a lot of the time questioning whether I should just go back to identifying as cis, but then I think of how much of myself I’d be closeting. I think Andrea Gibson probably said it best: “I wanna grow into something none of us has ever seen before… I want to bend in a thousand directions, Like the sun does, Like love does, Like time stopped.”


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