Activism

Someone wrote…

I’m struggling to find my place in trans activism. I identify as gender-queer/bi-gendered and I’m not sure where I fit in. I feel like more than an ally, but I have no intention of transitioning medically or committing to only one pronoun. Trans* issues have always been important to me, but i worry about my involvement in activism being unwelcome or even offensive to people who only see me as an ally or not “all-the-way” trans.

What’s your experience?

And what are you thinking about gender right now?


Posted by on December 17th, 2012 at 08:00 am

Category: your voice 9 comments »

9 Responses to “Activism”

  1. Lane

    I say if someone views you as ‘half-way’, that is the limit of their ability to perceive, not a statement about your gender, transition process – or lack of it. Accepting yourself as trans is the thing that really matters here, how you choose to live and function is your decision, but saying “I Am ____” is a major step in transitioning that you have already taken. Please venture into the community to keep advocating and see who you find, and remember…even those who are fully transitioned were not always as such, and surgery.medical changes are not required badges of authenticity, just the way it worked out the best for someone else. Best wishes to you! :)

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  2. Lane (not the same as the Lane above)

    You’re one of us. You’re in the boat of people whose internal genders don’t match their originally assigned sex. You have things in common with us binary trans folks, and things that you individually bring to the table as a genderqueer person, and things that you individually bring as you. Welcome to the party!

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  3. Kyle

    I also identify as trans and genderqueer/bi-gendered. I believe that medical transition is not the defining moment of being trans*. You are not alone in identifying as trans but not with binary gender. As non-binary trans* our transitional journey may not look like some of the other more binary trans* people we know or hear about, but the goal is the same: to create a life that fits us, makes us happy, keeps us healthy and alive. Through friendships and social activism, I have a lot of trans* colleagues and friends now. I find that we have plenty of common experiences and feelings to enable us to work well together and see each other not just as allies, but members of the same gender activism movement. And, maybe you’ve seen this before, but there’s no such thing as being ‘trans* enough’ and if someone tries to push that kind of judgement, realize that they are not the keepers of the only truth. You’re trans* enough if you feel you are. Period.

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  4. radical/rebel

    I’ve been appreciating reading the original post and the responses. I’m a trans* person who right now is choosing not to medically transition in any way. I have been through some struggles with name and pronouns and right now am settled on a name that somewhat fits me, and using any pronouns besides “she/her.” I do feel that I have a place in the trans* community, that I should be allowed to speak as a trans* person, even when other trans people don’t initially see me as “one of the tribe” or whatever. I have gotten a pretty good reception in my home and activist communities as a trans* person whose journey is not the norm, and that’s been very affirming.

    Also, I wanted to offer a different version of the last sentence of the previous comment, and say:

    “You’re trans* enough if you identify as trans*.” I think that’s really all it takes to be trans enough, in my experience.

    thanks for the thoughtful words and support everyone!

    radical genders and radical struggle,
    radical/rebel

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  5. Hodge Podge

    This parallels biphobia in the gay community, which is equally silly. We need you!

    Put it this way, as well as liberating ourselves, we’ll ultimately have to change the way cis/straight people see themselves. We have to completely change the paradigm. And fighting for people to be able to have a foot in both worlds is the logical way to do this. That’s why trans liberation needs people like you.

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  6. Anonymous

    You belong. : )

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  7. Cloud

    My exact struggle. I am finally calling myself transgender, and being embraced this way feels amazing.

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  8. Denii

    I’ve been to a few gender queer events…meetings and such. To be honest many of them are really quite bitter, angry, and somewhat “full of themselves.”

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    tigr replied:

    Sad to hear that! The genderqueer groups I’ve attended have always been very nice and supportive… I think the only thing I found a bit sad was that it felt like most other people, over time, shifted from in-between/questioning to more firmly one or the other, while I felt “stuck on the fence”, so to speak…

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